{"id":7061,"date":"2020-05-04T16:16:45","date_gmt":"2020-05-04T13:16:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=7061"},"modified":"2020-05-04T16:16:45","modified_gmt":"2020-05-04T13:16:45","slug":"sosyal-mesafe-derken-duygusal-mesafeleri-acmayin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/sosyal-mesafe-derken-duygusal-mesafeleri-acmayin\/","title":{"rendered":"Sosyal mesafe derken, duygusal mesafeleri a\u00e7may\u0131n!"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-light-blue ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Yaz\u0131 \u0130\u00e7eri\u011fi<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a57a5cda9cd3\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a57a5cda9cd3\"  aria-label=\"A\u00e7\/Kapat\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/sosyal-mesafe-derken-duygusal-mesafeleri-acmayin\/#Eski_hayatimiz_simdi_luks_oldu%E2%80%A6\" >Eski hayat\u0131m\u0131z \u015fimdi l\u00fcks oldu&#8230;<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/sosyal-mesafe-derken-duygusal-mesafeleri-acmayin\/#Duygusal_mesafeye_dikkat%E2%80%A6\" >Duygusal mesafeye dikkat!&#8230;<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/sosyal-mesafe-derken-duygusal-mesafeleri-acmayin\/#Bir_varmisiz_bir_yokmusuz%E2%80%A6\" >Bir varm\u0131\u015f\u0131z, bir yokmu\u015fuz&#8230;<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/sosyal-mesafe-derken-duygusal-mesafeleri-acmayin\/#Artik_anlamaya_calisiyorum%E2%80%A6\" >Art\u0131k anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorum&#8230;<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Hayat son d\u00f6nemlerde ne kadar da h\u0131zl\u0131 ak\u0131yor de\u011fil mi?<\/strong> Herkesin g\u00fcndemi h\u0131zl\u0131ca de\u011fi\u015fiyor, her g\u00fcn dura\u011fan gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de bir s\u00fcr\u00fc haberle kimi sars\u0131l\u0131yoruz kimi g\u00fcl\u00fcyoruz kimi de tuhafs\u0131yoruz. Son d\u00f6nemler ger\u00e7ekten de \u00e7ok ilgin\u00e7. Astrologlar, \u00e7e\u015fitli gezegenlerin konumundan bahsederken; baz\u0131lar\u0131 bunu d\u00fcnyan\u0131n bu kadar n\u00fcfusu kald\u0131ramayaca\u011f\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131yor. Herkesin belki de birle\u015fti\u011fi tek bir nokta var: <strong>Kimin akl\u0131na gelirdi koskoca kentlerin koskoca hapishaneler haline d\u00f6nebilece\u011fi?\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Eski_hayatimiz_simdi_luks_oldu%E2%80%A6\"><\/span><strong>Eski hayat\u0131m\u0131z \u015fimdi l\u00fcks oldu&#8230;<br \/>\n<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Ne kadar da geli\u015fig\u00fczel ya\u015f\u0131yormu\u015fuz hayat\u0131. Misal ben\u2026 \u0130\u015fe gitti\u011fimde sabah 07.30\u2019da, ilk i\u015fim koca bir karton bardak kahve almak ve o kahveyi son damlas\u0131na kadar i\u00e7mek olurdu. \u015eimdi \u00f6yle kahveler nerede? Her sabah k\u0131zlarla sar\u0131l\u0131p, \u00f6p\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr bir g\u00fcn \u00f6ncenin muhasebesini yapard\u0131k. T\u00fcm g\u00fcn herkesle can ci\u011fer kuzu sarmas\u0131 \u015fekilde tokala\u015f\u0131p, kimiyle uzun uzun sar\u0131l\u0131p i\u015fimize g\u00fcc\u00fcm\u00fcze bakard\u0131k. Her g\u00fcn y\u00fczlerce insanla y\u00fcz y\u00fcze gelip konu\u015fmak\u2026 Ne b\u00fcy\u00fck l\u00fcksm\u00fc\u015f me\u011fer! Ak\u015famlar\u0131 spor salonuna gidip saatlerce spor yapmak\u2026 D\u0131\u015far\u0131da arkada\u015flarla bulu\u015fup kahve i\u00e7mek\u2026 Bunlar nas\u0131l nimetmi\u015f bize! En son 8 Mart\u2019ta yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m akl\u0131ma geliyor. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131 al\u0131p bir sirke gittim. Y\u00fczlerce insanla yan yana g\u00f6steri izledikten sonra bir AVM\u2019de hem de hi\u00e7 bilmedi\u011fim bir restoranda hunharca pide yedik. \u00dczerine eve gelip \u00fczerimi de\u011fi\u015fip spora gittim. Ve sonras\u0131nda olanlar oldu\u2026 <strong>Koronavir\u00fcs geldi, hayatlar bir anda de\u011fi\u015fti!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Evlere \u00e7ekildik, i\u015flerimize gidemedik. Evden neler yapabilece\u011fimizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fck, evden \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131k. Gecemiz g\u00fcnd\u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fcze kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131. G\u00fcnde 3 ana, 3 ara \u00f6\u011f\u00fcn yap\u0131yorken; evin i\u00e7inde \u00f6\u011f\u00fcnlerimiz d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. Sonra marketler\u2026 Normalde 20 dakikada yap\u0131lan al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f s\u00fcreleri, sosyal mesafeyle 1.5 saatlere \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. Bankalarda kuyruklar uzad\u0131, f\u0131r\u0131nlarda ekmek almak i\u00e7in dakikalarca beklemeye ba\u015flad\u0131k. Sonras\u0131nda eve geldi\u011fimizde ayr\u0131 bir t\u00f6ren\u2026 K\u0131yafetlerini \u00e7\u0131kar, ald\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131ka, sirkeli sulara bat\u0131r\u2026 Saatlerimizi yemeye ba\u015flad\u0131k ve zaman h\u0131zla akmaya devam etti b\u00f6ylece\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Duygusal_mesafeye_dikkat%E2%80%A6\"><\/span><strong>Duygusal mesafeye dikkat!&#8230;<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Sosyal mesafe dedim. Sosyal mesafeyle birlikte, duygusal mesafeler de ba\u015flad\u0131 yava\u015f yava\u015f. Donukla\u015ft\u0131k, her \u015feyi bilgisayardan cep telefonundan halleder olduk\u2026 Mesafeler uzad\u0131, uzad\u0131 ve uzad\u0131\u2026 Sevdiklerimize laf anlatamaz olduk. Bu \u00f6yle bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 oldu ki, yak\u0131nla\u015fmak gerekirken herkes birbirinden koptu\u2026 Kalabal\u0131k iftar sofralar\u0131m\u0131z sadece \u00e7ekirdek ailemizden ibaret oldu. Uzakla\u015ft\u0131k\u2026 Ve uzakla\u015fmaya devam edece\u011fiz\u2026 De\u011fi\u015fmeyen tek \u015fey bencilli\u011fimiz oldu bence. Bencillik evet\u2026 <strong>Herkes, \u201cNe zaman \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131z?\u201d demek yerine \u201cNe zaman \u00e7\u0131karsam ortal\u0131\u011f\u0131n anas\u0131n\u0131 a\u011flataca\u011f\u0131m\u201d<\/strong> demeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u2026 Dedim ya, sosyal mesafe duygusal mesafeyi de a\u00e7t\u0131 art\u0131k. Ve herkes kendi kendisinin derdine d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc, duygusalsan kendine, \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcyorsan sadece kendine.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Bir_varmisiz_bir_yokmusuz%E2%80%A6\"><\/span><strong>Bir varm\u0131\u015f\u0131z, bir yokmu\u015fuz&#8230;<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Oysa \u00f6l\u00fcm var d\u00fcnyada\u2026 Ger\u00e7ekten iki g\u00fcnl\u00fck d\u00fcnya\u2026 Bug\u00fcn var\u0131z, yar\u0131n yokuz! Bir varm\u0131\u015f, bir yokmu\u015f! Bir g\u00fcn kendinizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp, bencillik etti\u011finiz birileri bu d\u00fcnyadan g\u00f6\u00e7 edip gidebilir. O zaman da duygusal mesafe yapabilecek miyiz? O zaman da <strong>\u201cAma o \u00f6yle yapt\u0131, ne \u00e7\u0131karc\u0131 insanm\u0131\u015f\u201d, \u201cAman yarabbi bu bana yap\u0131l\u0131r m\u0131?\u201d, \u201cS\u0131rt\u0131mdan vuruldum\u201d, \u201cBir daha onu asla g\u00f6rmek istemiyorum\u201d diyebilecek miyiz mert\u00e7e?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hemen hemen herkeste \u015fu ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z s\u00fcre\u00e7te bir s\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k var elbette. Herkesin ruhu daral\u0131yor ama l\u00fctfen herkes kendi derdine d\u00fc\u015fmeden \u00f6nce kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakini de d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcns\u00fcn. Kar\u015f\u0131daki ne diyor, ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor, niyeti ne? \u0130nan\u0131n bu hi\u00e7 zor de\u011fil. Bunu analiz etmek \u00e7ok zaman da almaz. Bencilce davranmak, kaybettirir. Bir anl\u0131k \u00f6fkeyle kalk\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu vicdan azab\u0131 \u00e7ekebilirsiniz. Oysa birbirinizin k\u00f6t\u00fc y\u00f6nlerini g\u00f6rmek yerine, iyi y\u00f6nlerini g\u00f6rmek gerekir bazen. Ve insanlar\u0131n i\u00e7ini okumaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, olaylar\u0131n d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc gibi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark etmek stat\u00fc katar insana\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Artik_anlamaya_calisiyorum%E2%80%A6\"><\/span><strong>Art\u0131k anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorum&#8230;<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Ben bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te en \u00e7ok k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131m, en sinirlendi\u011fim, beni en \u00e7ok \u00f6fkelendiren her kim varsa onu anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Onlarla ilgili fikirler \u00fcrettim ve bu s\u00fcreci i\u00e7sel d\u00fcnyamda olumlu bir hale getirdim. Eskiden sinirlendi\u011fim \u015feylere bug\u00fcn sinirlenmedi\u011fimi fark ettim. \u201cOlabilir\u201d, \u201cB\u00f6yle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u201d, \u201cBu da onun fikridir\u201d demeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. Ruhsal olarak art\u0131k vicdanen \u00e7ok rahat\u0131m\u2026<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Her neyse\u2026 K\u0131sacas\u0131\u2026 Sosyal mesafeyi a\u00e7t\u0131k ama duygusal mesafeleri a\u00e7mayal\u0131m\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hayat son d\u00f6nemlerde ne kadar da h\u0131zl\u0131 ak\u0131yor de\u011fil mi? Herkesin g\u00fcndemi h\u0131zl\u0131ca de\u011fi\u015fiyor, her g\u00fcn dura\u011fan gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de bir s\u00fcr\u00fc haberle kimi sars\u0131l\u0131yoruz kimi g\u00fcl\u00fcyoruz kimi de tuhafs\u0131yoruz. Son d\u00f6nemler ger\u00e7ekten de \u00e7ok ilgin\u00e7. Astrologlar, \u00e7e\u015fitli gezegenlerin konumundan bahsederken; baz\u0131lar\u0131 bunu d\u00fcnyan\u0131n bu kadar n\u00fcfusu kald\u0131ramayaca\u011f\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131yor. Herkesin belki de birle\u015fti\u011fi tek bir [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":5545,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1111],"tags":[10145],"class_list":["post-7061","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-yasam","tag-duygusal-mesafe"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/uzgun-kadin2.jpg?fit=626%2C417&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7061","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7061"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7061\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5545"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7061"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7061"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7061"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}