{"id":4384,"date":"2019-06-20T12:52:07","date_gmt":"2019-06-20T09:52:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=4384"},"modified":"2019-06-20T13:56:13","modified_gmt":"2019-06-20T10:56:13","slug":"cocuklari-dogru-odullendirin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/cocuklari-dogru-odullendirin\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocuklar\u0131 do\u011fru \u00f6d\u00fcllendirin&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Uzmanlar; anne babalar\u0131n genel anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n, iyi bir \u015fey yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fu maddi anlamda \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmek oldu\u011funu belirterek, \u201d\u00c7ocu\u011fa verilen en iyi <strong>\u00f6d\u00fcllendirme,<\/strong> maddi de\u011fil duygusal \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmedir\u201d diyor. Elbette do\u011fru s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorlar. Ancak gelin g\u00f6r\u00fcn ki, uygulama i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 \u015fey ge\u00e7erli de\u011fil.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocuk davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n \u015fekillenmesinde ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n, do\u011fru davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n ve onaylanmas\u0131 gereken tav\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6d\u00fcllendirilmesi \u00f6nemli. Evet, cezan\u0131n da uygun ve tabii yine de do\u011fru \u015fekilde uygulanmas\u0131 taraftar\u0131 uzmanlar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocukta istenmeyen davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n ve yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131n kalmamas\u0131 i\u00e7in ceza laz\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p><strong>G\u00fczel s\u00f6z en g\u00fczel \u00f6d\u00fcllerden biri&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocu\u011fu \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmenin derecesi ve \u015feklinin, ya\u015f ve ailenin durumuna g\u00f6re genelde de\u011fi\u015fiklik g\u00f6steriyor. Bu durumda en iyi \u00f6d\u00fcllendirme, maddi <strong>\u00f6d\u00fcllendirme<\/strong> yerine duygusal \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmedir. \u00c7ocu\u011fun bu t\u00fcrl\u00fc bir \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmeye al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131 da olduk\u00e7a \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131r. Anne babalar\u0131n genel anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011fa maddi hediye ve bir \u015feyler alman\u0131n sanki en iyi \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmeymi\u015f gibi alg\u0131lanmas\u0131d\u0131r. Bu \u015fekilde devaml\u0131 bir \u015feyler al\u0131nmaya ve verilmeye al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lan \u00e7ocuk ise g\u00fcn gelecek en iyi ve en pahal\u0131 hediyelerle bile doyum bulamayacakt\u0131r. Ama anne babas\u0131n\u0131n ok\u015famas\u0131, kucaklamas\u0131, gezdirmesi, onunla oynamas\u0131, ona g\u00fczel s\u00f6zler s\u00f6ylemesi \u015feklindeki \u00f6d\u00fcllendirme ise en sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve en ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmedir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Verilen s\u00f6z tutulmal\u0131&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Anne babalar\u0131n bu t\u00fcrl\u00fc bir duygusal \u00f6d\u00fcl\u00fcn yan\u0131 s\u0131ra imkanlar\u0131 \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcs\u00fcnde ek hediyeler vermesinin de \u00e7ocu\u011fu \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmenin di\u011fer yoludur. Anne babalar\u0131n, \u00e7ocuklara al\u0131nan hediyelerde maddi b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fck yerine, manevi de\u011feri \u00f6n plana \u00e7\u0131karmalar\u0131 uygun olur. Baz\u0131 anne babalar bunu yapsa bile g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn t\u00fcketim toplumunda \u00e7evresinden ve arkada\u015flar\u0131ndan etkilenen \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 y\u00f6nlendirmek anne babalar i\u00e7in hayli zor olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Anne babalar\u0131n \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmeyi belli bir hedefe ve ba\u015far\u0131ya y\u00f6nelik yapmalar\u0131, o hedeflere ula\u015f\u0131lmay\u0131 kolayla\u015ft\u0131racakt\u0131r.\u00a0Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te\u00a0verilen s\u00f6zlerin de kesinlikle yerine gerekmektedir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Uzmanlar; anne babalar\u0131n genel anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n, iyi bir \u015fey yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fu maddi anlamda \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmek oldu\u011funu belirterek, \u201d\u00c7ocu\u011fa verilen en iyi \u00f6d\u00fcllendirme, maddi de\u011fil duygusal \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmedir\u201d diyor. Elbette do\u011fru s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorlar. Ancak gelin g\u00f6r\u00fcn ki, uygulama i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 \u015fey ge\u00e7erli de\u011fil. \u00c7ocuk davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n \u015fekillenmesinde ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n, do\u011fru davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n ve onaylanmas\u0131 gereken tav\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6d\u00fcllendirilmesi \u00f6nemli. Evet, cezan\u0131n da uygun ve [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":80,"featured_media":4034,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[77,23,1282,3353,3352],"class_list":{"0":"post-4384","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-cocuk","8":"tag-aile","9":"tag-cocuk","10":"tag-cocuk-psikolojisi","11":"tag-duygusal-takdir","12":"tag-odullendirme"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/havale-geciren-cocuk.jpg?fit=626%2C417&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4384","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/80"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4384"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4384\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4034"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4384"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4384"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4384"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}