{"id":430,"date":"2018-03-04T21:17:17","date_gmt":"2018-03-04T21:17:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=430"},"modified":"2018-03-04T21:17:17","modified_gmt":"2018-03-04T21:17:17","slug":"cocuk-yetistirmede-20-sihirli-kural","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/cocuk-yetistirmede-20-sihirli-kural\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmede 20 sihirli kural!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u00c7ocuklar her \u015feyden \u00f6nce gelir. Onlar\u0131n bir k\u0131l\u0131na zarar gelsin istemeyiz. Ancak bazen de fazla koruma davranabiliyoruz, peki bu ne kadar do\u011fru.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"yildizlibaslik\">\u200b<\/span>Anne ve babalara \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 korumac\u0131 tav\u0131rla yeti\u015ftirmek yerine, onlara m\u00fccadele etme yolunun g\u00f6sterilmesi gerekti\u011finin alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izen uzmanlar \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmenin 20 sihirli kural\u0131 var. \u0130\u015fte o kurallar\u2026<br \/>\n<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>1- \u00c7ocuk<\/strong> yeti\u015ftirmenin birinci ad\u0131m\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u015fefkatli-karakterli anne-babas\u0131yla huzurlu bir ortamda b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fclmesidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2-<\/strong> Anne-baban\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fu kendi par\u00e7as\u0131 olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcp onun hayat\u0131 hakk\u0131nda her \u015feyi bilmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 do\u011fald\u0131r ancak \u00e7ocu\u011fun da \u00f6zelline sayg\u0131 duyulmal\u0131 ve kendini \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissetmesine f\u0131rsat tan\u0131nmal\u0131.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3- <\/strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fun mutlulu\u011fu, ebeveynin mutlulu\u011funun \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7memeli. Ancak ikisi aras\u0131nda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir denge kurulmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4-<\/strong> Ebeveyn, \u00e7ocu\u011funu b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklerden korumak yerine, ona sorumluluk duygusunu ve g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fckleri birlikte a\u015fmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmelidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5-<\/strong> Ailenin y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc ebeveynin tek ba\u015f\u0131na ta\u015f\u0131mas\u0131 yerine, anne-baba ve \u00e7ocu\u011fun da i\u00e7inde oldu\u011fu bir tak\u0131m olu\u015fturup sorumluluklar ve hayat payla\u015f\u0131lmald\u0131\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>6-<\/strong> Anne-baba, \u00e7ocu\u011funu yorucu, zor i\u015flerden korumak yerine \u00e7ocu\u011funu hayata haz\u0131rlamak g\u00f6revini \u00fcstlenmeli.<\/p>\n<p><strong>7-<\/strong> Anne \u2013babalar, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 dinlemeli, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fc \u00e7ocukla birlikte aramal\u0131.<\/p>\n<p><strong>8- <\/strong>Anne-baba \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n, koyduklar\u0131 kurallara itaat etmesini beklemeli, ancak onlar\u0131n da kurallara itiraz hakk\u0131n\u0131n oldu\u011funu unutulmamal\u0131d\u0131r. En etkili emirin de se\u00e7enek sunmak oldu\u011fu bilinmelidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>9-<\/strong> Anne-babalar, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n s\u00f6zlerini yeti\u015fkin insan gibi dinlemeli, ancak onlardan b\u00fcy\u00fck insan gibi davranmalar\u0131n\u0131 beklememelidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>10-<\/strong> Disiplin ve nasihatin yumu\u015fak ve devaml\u0131 olmas\u0131 halinde etkili oldu\u011fu nasihatte \u00f6rnek olman\u0131n da \u00f6nemi unutulmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>11-<\/strong> \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n arkada\u015flar\u0131 ve sosyal hayat\u0131 yak\u0131ndan takip edilmeli ancak fazla m\u00fcdahale edilmemelidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>12-<\/strong> Ebeveynin, \u00e7ocu\u011funu hayat k\u00f6pr\u00fcs\u00fcden ge\u00e7irmekten ziyade o k\u00f6pr\u00fcden nas\u0131l ge\u00e7ece\u011fini \u00f6\u011fretmesi gerekti\u011fini bilmeli.<br \/>\n<strong><br \/>\n13- <\/strong>Bir anne \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 ile ilgilenirken kendini evde hapsolmu\u015f ve tutuklanm\u0131\u015f hissedebilir. Bu do\u011fal. Ancak ebeveynin s\u0131radan olaylardan zevk almay\u0131 ba\u015faran ki\u015filerin \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck &#8211; sorumluluk dengesini kurabilenlerin mutlu olabildi\u011fini unutmamal\u0131.<\/p>\n<p><strong>14-<\/strong> Ebeveyn, anne, baba, e\u015f, i\u015f adam\u0131 rol\u00fcn\u00fcn hepsini kendi \u015fartlar\u0131nda ya\u015famal\u0131. Farkl\u0131 rollerini farkl\u0131 alanlarda ya\u015famal\u0131.<\/p>\n<p><strong>15- <\/strong>Anne ve baban\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011funun gizli d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini bilmek gibi bir g\u00f6revi yok. \u00c7ocu\u011fa \u00f6zerk alan b\u0131rak\u0131p onun kendi gemisinin kaptan\u0131 olmas\u0131na f\u0131rsat vermeli.<\/p>\n<p><strong>16- <\/strong>Anne- baba \u00e7ocu\u011funa zaman zaman k\u0131z\u0131p sinirlenebilir ancak \u00f6nemli olan sonras\u0131nda \u00f6z ele\u015ftiri yapabilmeli ve haks\u0131z oldu\u011fu durumlarda \u00e7ocu\u011fundan \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyebilmelidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>17-<\/strong> \u00c7ocu\u011fun ani sorular\u0131n\u0131 cevaplayamayacak kadar me\u015fgul olunsa da ona sonradan zaman ayr\u0131lmal\u0131 ve hak etti\u011fi ilgi g\u00f6sterilmeli.<br \/>\n<strong><br \/>\n18-<\/strong> \u00c7ocuk e\u011fitiminde sevgi, ilgi, sayg\u0131, sab\u0131r ve g\u00fcven kelimelerin sihirli kelimeler oldu\u011fu unutulmamal\u0131. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6nemsedi\u011finizi hissettirmek ve kendisini ifade etmesinde cesaretlendirmekle sihirli kelimeleri harekete ge\u00e7irdi\u011fi bilinmeli.<\/p>\n<p><strong>19- <\/strong>Sab\u0131r amaca y\u00f6nelik olmal\u0131d\u0131r, her istedi\u011fi yap\u0131lan \u00e7ocuk bencil her \u015feyine \u201chay\u0131r\u201d denilen \u00e7ocu\u011fun da inat\u00e7\u0131 oldu\u011fu unutulmamal\u0131.<\/p>\n<p><strong>20-<\/strong> En \u00f6nemlisi de \u00e7ocu\u011fa insani de\u011ferlerin ve empatinin \u00f6\u011fretilmesi. \u0130deal insan\u0131n d\u00fcnyay\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye kendisinden ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bilinmeli.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00c7ocuklar her \u015feyden \u00f6nce gelir. Onlar\u0131n bir k\u0131l\u0131na zarar gelsin istemeyiz. Ancak bazen de fazla koruma davranabiliyoruz, peki bu ne kadar do\u011fru. \u200bAnne ve babalara \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 korumac\u0131 tav\u0131rla yeti\u015ftirmek yerine, onlara m\u00fccadele etme yolunun g\u00f6sterilmesi gerekti\u011finin alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izen uzmanlar \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmenin 20 sihirli kural\u0131 var. \u0130\u015fte o kurallar\u2026 1- \u00c7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmenin birinci ad\u0131m\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u015fefkatli-karakterli [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":80,"featured_media":224,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[52,23,118,117],"class_list":{"0":"post-430","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-cocuk","8":"tag-anne","9":"tag-cocuk","10":"tag-cocuk-yetistirme","11":"tag-ebeveyn"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/aile-cocuk.jpg?fit=800%2C533&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/430","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/80"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=430"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/430\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/224"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=430"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=430"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=430"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}