E\u015finiz evlenmeden \u00f6nce \u201cEvlilik y\u0131ld\u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcm\u00fcz olsa bile o g\u00fcn fanatik derecesinde tutkun oldu\u011fum tak\u0131m\u0131n ma\u00e7\u0131na giderim, yani \u00f6nce tak\u0131m\u0131m, sonra sen<\/b>\u201d dedi\u011finde evet derseniz, evlendikten sonra her \u015fey de\u011fi\u015fir derseniz, yan\u0131l\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Siz ni\u015fanl\u0131l\u0131k d\u00f6neminde do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc ni\u015fanl\u0131n\u0131zla de\u011fil, arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla kutlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131n\u0131z; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc o g\u00fcn o \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli ma\u00e7 g\u00fcn\u00fcyd\u00fc ayn\u0131 zamanda. O zaman sessiz kald\u0131n\u0131z, sonra olmaz dediniz, ama oldu\u2026 Ve siz tepkinizi ortaya koydunuz. E\u015finiz do\u011fal olarak \u015fa\u015f\u0131rd\u0131. Bir kez evet deyip, sessiz kald\u0131ysan\u0131z bu bir anla\u015fmaya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Sessiz anla\u015fman\u0131n olu\u015fmamas\u0131 i\u00e7in bunun bir kereli\u011fine kabul edildi\u011fini s\u00f6ylemek gerekir. Ya da o an kabul nedeninizi de ortaya koyman\u0131z etkili olacakt\u0131r. Sessiz anla\u015fma i\u015fyerinde, evimizde, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131zla, arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zla her yerde oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in kendimizi kontrol alt\u0131nda tutmam\u0131zda yarar var.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocu\u011funuza yeti\u015fkinmi\u015f gibi davranmay\u0131n<\/b>
\nHep bir yere yeti\u015fecek olmak, i\u015fyerinde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z sorunlar, evde kendimizi de\u011fersiz hissetti\u011fimiz zamanlar, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za farkl\u0131 davranabiliyoruz. B\u00f6yle anlarda \u00e7ocu\u011fu \u00e7ocuk olarak g\u00f6rm\u00fcyoruz, sanki o her \u015feyi ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f, bizimle ayn\u0131 deneyime sahip gibi bak\u0131yoruz, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z olaylar\u0131 da b\u00f6yle de\u011ferlendiriyoruz. \u00c7ocu\u011fumuzun ders \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir g\u00fcn keyfimiz yerindeyse \u201cTabii, sonra \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u201d <\/b>deyip bir ba\u015fka zaman sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7inde yo\u011furulurken i\u00e7imizin rahatlamas\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00f6fkemizi \u00e7ocu\u011fumuza y\u00f6neltmek \u00e7ocu\u011fu \u015fa\u015fk\u0131na \u00e7evirir.<\/p>\n
Hangisi annenin tepkisidir, \u00e7ocuk bunu ay\u0131rt edemez<\/b><\/p>\n
\u00c7ocu\u011funuz odas\u0131n\u0131 da\u011f\u0131t\u0131r, siz toplars\u0131n\u0131z. Bir ba\u015fka zaman \u00e7ocu\u011fu odas\u0131n\u0131 toplamad\u0131 diye azarlars\u0131n\u0131z. B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar sessiz anla\u015fma yaratan davran\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. Anne bir konuya tepki g\u00f6steriyorsa her zaman ayn\u0131 tepkiyi g\u00f6stermelidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuk ilk tepkiyi kaydedecektir bilin\u00e7alt\u0131na. Ders \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak istemedi\u011finde annemin tepkisi anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 bir tepkidir kayd\u0131 varsa tersi durumda \u00e7ocuk ikilem ya\u015fayacakt\u0131r. Bu nedenle her davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n nedenini a\u00e7\u0131klay\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011funuza. Hangi konuya hangi tepkiyi neden verdi\u011finizi bilmeli \u00e7ocu\u011funuz. Konu\u015fun, anlat\u0131n\u2026 \u00c7ocuk o, anlamaz demeyin. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 \u015fekillendirdi\u011fimizi unutmadan konu\u015fal\u0131m, de\u011ferlendirelim her yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun olumsuz al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n nedeni sizin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r<\/b>
\n\u00c7ocu\u011funuz tepki g\u00f6sterdi\u011finde, \u00f6rne\u011fin bir oyuncak istedi\u011finde hay\u0131r derseniz, oyuncak ma\u011fazas\u0131nda yerlere yatarak a\u011flamas\u0131 sonucunda oyuncak al\u0131n\u0131rsa, bundan sonra isteklerin yap\u0131lmas\u0131 bu t\u00fcr tepkilere ba\u011fl\u0131 olacakt\u0131r, \u00e7ocu\u011funuzla sessiz anla\u015fma yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun ya\u015f\u0131 hi\u00e7 \u00f6nemli de\u011fil, her ya\u015fta de\u011ferlendirme bu \u015fekilde olmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Siz sessiz anla\u015fmay\u0131 istedi\u011finiz an bozabilirsiniz, tek \u015fartla\u2026 \u00c7ocu\u011funuzla konu\u015farak, bundan b\u00f6yle konu ile ilgili fikrinizi anlat\u0131r, payla\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Onun anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan emin olun. \u00c7ocu\u011funuza benim do\u011frum neyse do\u011fru odur, bug\u00fcne kadar b\u00f6yleydi, \u015fimdi fikrim de\u011fi\u015fti \u015feklinde de\u011fil, mant\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u00e7er\u00e7evede anlat\u0131m\u0131 se\u00e7meniz \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocu\u011funuza herhangi bir konuyu anlat\u0131rken net bir dille konu\u015fmaya, ileti\u015fiminizin yumu\u015fak bir dille olmas\u0131na, g\u00f6z konta\u011f\u0131 kurmaya ve en \u00f6nemlisi ayn\u0131 hizada olmaya \u00f6zen g\u00f6stermeyi unutmayal\u0131m\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
E\u015finiz evlenmeden \u00f6nce \u201cEvlilik y\u0131ld\u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcm\u00fcz olsa bile o g\u00fcn fanatik derecesinde tutkun oldu\u011fum tak\u0131m\u0131n ma\u00e7\u0131na giderim, yani \u00f6nce tak\u0131m\u0131m, sonra sen\u201d dedi\u011finde evet derseniz, evlendikten sonra her \u015fey de\u011fi\u015fir derseniz, yan\u0131l\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Siz ni\u015fanl\u0131l\u0131k d\u00f6neminde do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc ni\u015fanl\u0131n\u0131zla de\u011fil, arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla kutlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131n\u0131z; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc o g\u00fcn o \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli ma\u00e7 g\u00fcn\u00fcyd\u00fc ayn\u0131 zamanda. O zaman sessiz kald\u0131n\u0131z, sonra […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":17,"featured_media":3797,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[1540,3111,1537,3112],"class_list":{"0":"post-3959","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-cocuk","8":"tag-cocugun-iletisim-problemleri","9":"tag-cocugunuzla-dogru-iletisim","10":"tag-cocukla-iletisim","11":"tag-cocukla-iletisim-problemleri"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/anne-cocuk3.jpg?fit=626%2C417&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3959","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/17"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3959"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3959\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3797"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3959"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3959"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3959"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}