{"id":3852,"date":"2019-04-16T12:40:33","date_gmt":"2019-04-16T09:40:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=3852"},"modified":"2019-04-16T12:40:33","modified_gmt":"2019-04-16T09:40:33","slug":"anne-babaya-bagimli-cocuklar-yetistirmeyin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/anne-babaya-bagimli-cocuklar-yetistirmeyin\/","title":{"rendered":"Anne babaya ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar yeti\u015ftirmeyin!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ya\u015fam her zaman g\u00fczellikler getirmez bizlere\u2026 Ac\u0131, mutluluk, \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc hepsini i\u00e7inde bar\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r hayat denilen \u00e7ark. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yeti\u015ftirirken bir yandan t\u00fcm bu kirliliklerle m\u00fccadele etme g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6\u011fretirken, di\u011fer taraftan ke\u015fke hi\u00e7bir zaman hayat\u0131n olumsuzluklar\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmas\u0131n ister <strong>anne ve baba<\/strong> y\u00fcre\u011fi. Ne var ki bir g\u00fcn onlar\u0131 her \u015fartta koruyan, d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en g\u00fczel varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 hissini veren o perde s\u0131yr\u0131lacak ve hayatla y\u00fczle\u015fecekler. Ancak <strong>anne baba ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/strong> \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun bu d\u00f6neminde pek \u00e7ok s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ya\u015famas\u0131na neden olabilir.<\/p>\n<p><b>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za m\u00fccadele etmeyi nas\u0131l \u00f6\u011fretebiliriz?<\/b><\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bilinci o kadar aktiftir ki bizim yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her hareket beyinlerine hemen kaz\u0131n\u0131r ve t\u00fcm verdiklerimizi pusula olarak daima yanlar\u0131nda tutabilirler. \u00d6rne\u011fin yolda y\u00fcr\u00fcyoruz ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor, anne y\u00fcre\u011fi hemen kald\u0131rmak istiyor. Tut annecim elimi, senin annen her daim arkanda\u2026 \u00d6yle ya hangi anne \u00e7ocu\u011funun arkas\u0131nda olmak istemez. Bunu g\u00f6ren \u00e7ocuk her d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde nas\u0131lsa kald\u0131racaklar diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp yerinden kalkm\u0131yor bile. Sadece ebeveynlerinin g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn i\u00e7ine bak\u0131yor kald\u0131rs\u0131nlar diye. \u015eimdi geri saral\u0131m sahneyi. Uzaktan izliyoruz onu, kald\u0131rmam\u0131z\u0131 istedi\u011finde ne \u00e7ok kat\u0131 bir yakla\u015f\u0131mla, ne de karakterine bir \u00f6m\u00fcr mal olacak \u00a0ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 bir anne edas\u0131yla davranmadan, hay\u0131r can\u0131m sen kendin kalkabilirsin, sende bu potansiyel var dedi\u011finizde aya\u011fa kalkar kalkmaz g\u00f6z\u00fcnden yans\u0131yan kendinden emin bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131 g\u00f6rece\u011finize eminim. Belki do\u011frulana kadar biraz i\u00e7imiz s\u0131zlar elimizi uzatmad\u0131k diye ama emin olun ki ilerde her zorlukla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kendinden kuvvet alaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da bilir.<\/p>\n<p><b>Anne ve baba olarak onlara nas\u0131l yol g\u00f6stermeliyiz?<\/b><\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bir \u00f6m\u00fcr bize g\u00fcvenip ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131, sorunlar\u0131yla m\u00fccadele etmek yerine <strong>anne babas\u0131<\/strong> olsa dahi ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ayaklar\u0131yla y\u00fcr\u00fcyen bir ki\u015filik olmas\u0131n\u0131 m\u0131 tercih ederiz, yoksa kendi akl\u0131 ve g\u00fcc\u00fcne g\u00fcvenen hi\u00e7bir durumda g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc arkada b\u0131rakmayacak \u00e7ocuklar m\u0131 yeti\u015ftirmeyi arzular\u0131z. Onlara g\u00f6lge olal\u0131m, ak\u0131nt\u0131yla ba\u015f etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken ellerindeki k\u00fcrek olmay\u0131 ye\u011flersek o k\u00fcrek elinden kay\u0131p gitti\u011fi anda \u00e7aresizce kendiyle ba\u015f ba\u015fa kalaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 unutmayal\u0131m. Her \u015fartta kendilerine de\u011fnek olan anne ve babalar\u0131yla de\u011fil, kendi ak\u0131llar\u0131yla m\u00fccadele etmenin ve bunun ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n hazz\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fatal\u0131m. \u015eunu soral\u0131m kendimize hangisi bize mutluluk verir. Bize ba\u011fl\u0131 olan evlatlar m\u0131 yoksa ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 olanlar m\u0131? Sevgiyle kal\u0131n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ya\u015fam her zaman g\u00fczellikler getirmez bizlere\u2026 Ac\u0131, mutluluk, \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc hepsini i\u00e7inde bar\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r hayat denilen \u00e7ark. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yeti\u015ftirirken bir yandan t\u00fcm bu kirliliklerle m\u00fccadele etme g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6\u011fretirken, di\u011fer taraftan ke\u015fke hi\u00e7bir zaman hayat\u0131n olumsuzluklar\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmas\u0131n ister anne ve baba y\u00fcre\u011fi. Ne var ki bir g\u00fcn onlar\u0131 her \u015fartta koruyan, d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en g\u00fczel varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 hissini veren o [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":3807,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[3019,3016,3014,3018,3013,3015,3017],"class_list":{"0":"post-3852","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-cocuk","8":"tag-anne-bagimliligi-nedir","9":"tag-anne-bagimliligi-tedavisi","10":"tag-anneye-bagimli-cocuk","11":"tag-bagimli-anne-sendromu","12":"tag-bagimli-cocuk","13":"tag-cocuklarda-anne-bagimliligi","14":"tag-yetiskinlerde-anne-bagimliligi-tedavisi"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/anne-bebek-baba-aile.jpg?fit=626%2C417&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3852","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3852"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3852\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3807"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3852"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3852"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3852"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}