{"id":3552,"date":"2019-02-14T14:07:52","date_gmt":"2019-02-14T11:07:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=3552"},"modified":"2019-02-14T14:07:52","modified_gmt":"2019-02-14T11:07:52","slug":"cocuklarla-iyi-iletisim-kurmanin-9-yolu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/cocuklarla-iyi-iletisim-kurmanin-9-yolu\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocuklarla iyi ileti\u015fim kurman\u0131n 9 yolu!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Her ebeveyn \u00e7ocu\u011fuyla sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ileti\u015fim kurmak ister. Ebeveyn olman\u0131n en \u00f6nemli sorumluluklardan biri oldu\u011funu belirten <strong> \u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatrisi Uzman\u0131 Dr. Figen Karaceylan \u00c7akmak\u00e7\u0131<\/strong>, anne ve babalara \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla ili\u015fkilerini g\u00fc\u00e7lendirecek 9 \u00f6neride bulundu.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun dikkatini \u00e7ekin<\/strong><br \/>\n* Talimat verirken, t\u00fcm dikkatinin sizin \u00fczerinizde oldu\u011fundan emin olun.<br \/>\n* Konu\u015furken televizyonu, radyoyu, m\u00fczi\u011fi kapat\u0131n.<br \/>\n* \u0130smiyle seslenin.<br \/>\n* K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n nazik\u00e7e elinden tutarak g\u00f6z temas\u0131 kurmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<br \/>\n* Konu\u015furken g\u00f6zlerinin i\u00e7ine bak\u0131n.<br \/>\n* Anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r bir \u015fekilde, ba\u011f\u0131rmadan konu\u015fun.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Olumlu olun<\/strong><br \/>\n\u00c7ocu\u011funuza ne yapmamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6ylemek yerine ne yapmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yleyin. \u2018L\u00fctfen patatesini de ye\u2019 demek \u2018Patateslerinle oynamay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u2019 demekten daha etkilidir.<br \/>\nKurallar\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a belirleyin<br \/>\nKurallar\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a belirlemek tart\u0131\u015fma ya\u015fanmas\u0131n\u0131 engeller. Siz ve ailenizdeki di\u011fer bireyler i\u00e7in ger\u00e7ekten \u00f6nemli olan kurallara odaklan\u0131n; daha az \u00f6nemli olanlarla vakit kaybetmeyin.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzu \u00f6v\u00fcn<\/strong><br \/>\n\u00c7ocu\u011funuz bir g\u00f6revi tamamlad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda veya iyi davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ne kadar memnun oldu\u011funuzu s\u00f6yleyin. \u00d6vg\u00fc, \u00f6v\u00fclen davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n hemen arkas\u0131ndan gelmeli.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00d6d\u00fcllendirin<\/strong><br \/>\n\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun baz\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmek ve olumlu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 peki\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in \u00f6d\u00fcl sisteminden yararlan\u0131n. Bu sistemde; \u00e7ocu\u011funuz her iyi davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7in puan toplar ve belirli bir puana eri\u015fti\u011finde istedi\u011fi ve \u00f6nceden \u00fczerinde anla\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir \u00f6d\u00fcl kazanabilir. Puanlar\u0131 takip etmek i\u00e7in istedi\u011finiz herhangi bir \u015feyi kullanabilirsiniz. \u00d6rne\u011fin; kavanozun i\u00e7ine her olumlu davran\u0131\u015f i\u00e7in bir d\u00fc\u011fme atarak puanlar\u0131n\u0131 takip edebilirsiniz. Anla\u015fman\u0131z\u0131 \u201canla\u015fma kartlar\u0131\u201d \u00fczerine yazabilir ve bu kartlar\u0131 buzdolab\u0131n\u0131n veya bir mutfak dolab\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerine asabilirsiniz. B\u00f6ylece hem \u00e7ocu\u011funuz hem siz anla\u015fman\u0131n ne oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlars\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Huzur Plan\u0131<\/strong><br \/>\nEvde ve ev d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda stresi, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 gerginli\u011fi sonland\u0131rmak i\u00e7in baz\u0131 d\u00fczenlemeler yap\u0131n. E\u011fer \u00e7ocu\u011funuzla birlikte al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fe \u00e7\u0131kmak sizin i\u00e7in zorsa, al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fi kendi ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131za huzur i\u00e7inde yapabilece\u011finiz bir zaman ayarlay\u0131n. E\u011fer birlikte yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z araba yolculu\u011fu size korku dolu anlar ya\u015fat\u0131yorsa, bunu molalarda farkl\u0131 \u015feyler yapabilece\u011finiz iki ya da daha fazla k\u0131sa yolculu\u011fa b\u00f6lmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Nas\u0131l hissetti\u011finizi a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a s\u00f6yleyin<\/strong><br \/>\n\u00c7ocu\u011fu do\u011frudan ele\u015ftirmek yerine (\u00f6rn: \u201cyaramazl\u0131k yap\u0131yorsun!\u201d), davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n sizi nas\u0131l etkiledi\u011finden bahsedin. (\u00f6rn: \u201cbu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n beni ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok \u00fcz\u00fcyor.\u201d)<\/p>\n<p><strong>Tart\u0131\u015fmalardan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n<\/strong><br \/>\nA\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a belirlenmi\u015f kurallar vard\u0131r. Bunlar\u0131 siz de biliyorsunuz, \u00e7ocu\u011funuz da biliyor. Belirlenmi\u015f kurallar hakk\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011funuzla tart\u0131\u015fmaya girmeyin. \u00d6rne\u011fin; \u00e7ocu\u011funuz ba\u015fka bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun oyunca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u201c&#8230;&#8230;.l\u00fctfen dinozoru &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.\u2019a geri ver. 3\u2019e kadar sayaca\u011f\u0131m: bir &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230; (5 saniye bekleyin) iki &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.. (daha kuvvetli) &#8230;&#8230;. \u00fc\u00e7\u201d deyin ve kararl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fa hissettirip, gereksiz inatla\u015fmalardan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sakinle\u015fmek i\u00e7in mola verin<\/strong><br \/>\n\u00d6fkeliyken hi\u00e7bir sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zemezsiniz. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzla ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z kriz anlar\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 olarak inatla\u015fmak ve g\u00fc\u00e7 sava\u015f\u0131na girmek yerine, ili\u015fkiye sakinle\u015finceye kadar ara verin.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Her ebeveyn \u00e7ocu\u011fuyla sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ileti\u015fim kurmak ister. Ebeveyn olman\u0131n en \u00f6nemli sorumluluklardan biri oldu\u011funu belirten \u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatrisi Uzman\u0131 Dr. Figen Karaceylan \u00c7akmak\u00e7\u0131, anne ve babalara \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla ili\u015fkilerini g\u00fc\u00e7lendirecek 9 \u00f6neride bulundu. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun dikkatini \u00e7ekin * Talimat verirken, t\u00fcm dikkatinin sizin \u00fczerinizde oldu\u011fundan emin olun. * Konu\u015furken televizyonu, radyoyu, m\u00fczi\u011fi kapat\u0131n. * \u0130smiyle [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":80,"featured_media":3533,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[341,1540,23,1537,2785],"class_list":{"0":"post-3552","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-cocuk","8":"tag-anne-cocuk","9":"tag-cocugun-iletisim-problemleri","10":"tag-cocuk","11":"tag-cocukla-iletisim","12":"tag-cocuklarla-iletisim"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/internet-cocuk-anne.jpg?fit=626%2C417&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3552","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/80"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3552"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3552\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3533"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3552"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3552"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3552"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}