{"id":3463,"date":"2019-01-07T18:42:49","date_gmt":"2019-01-07T15:42:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=3463"},"modified":"2019-01-07T18:42:49","modified_gmt":"2019-01-07T15:42:49","slug":"cocugunuzun-birey-oldugunu-kabul-edin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/cocugunuzun-birey-oldugunu-kabul-edin\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun birey oldu\u011funu kabul edin\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>B\u00fcy\u00fckler, anneler, babalar \u00e7ocukluk d\u00f6nemimizi ne \u00e7abuk unutuyoruz. Biz de \u00e7ocuktuk ve <strong>&#8220;birey&#8221; olamamay\u0131<\/strong> hissettik \u00e7o\u011fumuz. Birey olmak ger\u00e7ek anlamda \u00f6zg\u00fcr, mutlu ve ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olman\u0131n ilk ad\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fu insan kendi se\u00e7imlerini yapamad\u0131\u011f\u0131, kendini ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftiremedi\u011fi i\u00e7in mutlu olmay\u0131 ba\u015faram\u0131yor.<\/p>\n<p><strong>T\u00fcm sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumuz&#8230;<\/strong><br \/>\nYeti\u015fkin d\u00f6nemimize geldi\u011fimizde neredeyse t\u00fcm sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131n\u0131n anne karn\u0131ndan itibaren 6 ya\u015fa kadar ald\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z, bilin\u00e7alt\u0131na kaydettiklerimizin oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frendik. B\u00fcy\u00fcklerimiz bunu bilmiyordu, ama biz bug\u00fcn bu bilgiye sahibiz.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za sevgi ve sayg\u0131 ile yakla\u015f\u0131rsak bir birey olarak yeti\u015fmesi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Evet sayg\u0131 dedi\u011fimde <strong>k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fc\u011fe sayg\u0131y\u0131<\/strong> \u00f6\u011frenmedik biz diyebilirsiniz. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n da kendilerine ait alanlar\u0131 var, o alana m\u00fcdahale etmek hakk\u0131n\u0131 biz al\u0131yoruz, ama m\u00fcdahale nereye kadar olmal\u0131? <strong>Bizim de kendimize ait bir alan\u0131m\u0131z olmal\u0131, e\u015fimiz, annemiz, i\u015fyerinde y\u00f6neticilerimiz bizim alan\u0131m\u0131za m\u00fcdahale etmemeli, buna izin vermemeliyiz.<\/strong> Bunun fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131nda olan anne \u00e7ocu\u011funa da ayn\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc tan\u0131yacakt\u0131r. Biz birey olursak \u00e7ocu\u011fumuz da birey olur.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun fikirlerini \u00f6nemseyin<\/strong><br \/>\n6 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki bir \u00e7ocuk arkada\u015f\u0131na anne ve babas\u0131n\u0131n bo\u015fanmas\u0131n\u0131 \u015f\u00f6yle anlat\u0131yor: &#8220;Benim annem ve babam ayn\u0131 evde ya\u015fam\u0131yor. Bana art\u0131k ayn\u0131 evde ya\u015famayaca\u011f\u0131z, ne dersin dediler, ben de tamam dedim.&#8221; \u00c7ocuk bu \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli olayda fikrinin al\u0131nmamas\u0131 nedeniyle kendine bir savunma mekanizmas\u0131 olu\u015fturmu\u015f. Ancak yeti\u015fkin d\u00f6neminde ya\u015fayaca\u011f\u0131 problemlerin kayna\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bulacakt\u0131r mutlaka.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocu\u011fumuzla oldu\u011fumuz her an sadece onunla olmak bile ona de\u011fer verdi\u011fimizin bir g\u00f6stergesidir. <strong>De\u011ferli olmak hepimizin g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde fark etti\u011fi en b\u00fcy\u00fck ihtiya\u00e7&#8230;<\/strong> \u0130\u015fte bu nedenle \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bizim alanlar\u0131m\u0131za m\u00fcdahale eden gibi g\u00f6rmeyelim. Bazen \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc k\u0131s\u0131tlayanlar olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz, bazen kariyerimizi engelleyen olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcp su\u00e7luyoruz onlar\u0131. Bunlar\u0131n hepsi mobbingi, yani psikolojik \u015fiddeti i\u00e7eriyor.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Proje \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmeyin<\/strong><br \/>\nProje \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftiren anneler de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n alanlar\u0131na m\u00fcdahale ediyor. Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz g\u00fcnlerde \u00e7ocuklu\u011fundan beri tiyatro sanat\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 olmak isteyen bir gen\u00e7 \u00f6nce ailem i\u00e7in onlar\u0131n istedi\u011fi \u00fcniversitenin istedi\u011fi b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fc bitirdim, \u015fimdi kendim i\u00e7in tiyatro sanat\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 olmak i\u00e7in ne gerekiyorsa onu yapaca\u011f\u0131m dedi. Sizce burada alana m\u00fcdahale yap\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f m\u0131?<\/p>\n<p>De\u011ferlerin olu\u015ftu\u011fu 0- 6 ya\u015f grubunda, hatta 17 ya\u015fa kadar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ne kadar \u00f6zg\u00fcn yeti\u015ftirebilirsek, ne kadar \u00f6zg\u00fcr olmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flarsak yeti\u015fkin d\u00f6nemlerinde kendilerini o kadar <strong>&#8220;birey&#8221;<\/strong> hissederler. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz ayd\u0131nlanma d\u00f6nemi, bu d\u00f6nemde herkes daha bilgili, geli\u015fime a\u00e7\u0131k. Bug\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar, yar\u0131n\u0131n yeti\u015fkinlerinin d\u00fcnyay\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirecekleri s\u00f6yleminin do\u011fru olmas\u0131 i\u00e7in neler m\u00fcmk\u00fcn?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>B\u00fcy\u00fckler, anneler, babalar \u00e7ocukluk d\u00f6nemimizi ne \u00e7abuk unutuyoruz. Biz de \u00e7ocuktuk ve &#8220;birey&#8221; olamamay\u0131 hissettik \u00e7o\u011fumuz. Birey olmak ger\u00e7ek anlamda \u00f6zg\u00fcr, mutlu ve ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olman\u0131n ilk ad\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fu insan kendi se\u00e7imlerini yapamad\u0131\u011f\u0131, kendini ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftiremedi\u011fi i\u00e7in mutlu olmay\u0131 ba\u015faram\u0131yor. T\u00fcm sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumuz&#8230; Yeti\u015fkin d\u00f6nemimize geldi\u011fimizde neredeyse t\u00fcm sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131n\u0131n anne karn\u0131ndan itibaren 6 ya\u015fa kadar [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":17,"featured_media":2482,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[2744,128,118,2745],"class_list":{"0":"post-3463","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-cocuk","8":"tag-birey-olmak","9":"tag-bosanma","10":"tag-cocuk-yetistirme","11":"tag-proje-cocuk"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/anne-cocuk.jpg?fit=625%2C417&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3463","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/17"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3463"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3463\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2482"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3463"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3463"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3463"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}