{"id":3006,"date":"2018-08-18T12:56:35","date_gmt":"2018-08-18T09:56:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=3006"},"modified":"2018-08-18T12:56:35","modified_gmt":"2018-08-18T09:56:35","slug":"bosanmanin-cocuklar-uzerindeki-etkisi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/bosanmanin-cocuklar-uzerindeki-etkisi\/","title":{"rendered":"Bo\u015fanman\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar \u00fczerindeki etkisi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>B\u00fct\u00fcn ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7lar g\u00fczeldir. Kad\u0131n ve erkek birbirlerini \u00e7ok sever, tamamland\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 hisseder ve evlenir. Her \u015fey yolundayken bazen gitme zaman\u0131 gelir ve bir \u015fekilde evlilik biter. <strong>Bo\u015fanma anne, baba ve \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in zor bir s\u00fcre\u00e7tir<\/strong>. Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7 \u00f6zellikle \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bo\u015fan\u0131rken \u00e7ocu\u011funuzda travma yaratmay\u0131n<\/strong><br \/>\nGitme zaman\u0131n\u0131n zarafeti her ayr\u0131l\u0131\u015fta oldu\u011fu gibi bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131nda da olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ayr\u0131l\u0131k iste\u011fi kabala\u015fmay\u0131 da beraberinde getirmemeli. Ebeveyn neden bir anda sahip olmay\u0131 \u00e7ok istedi\u011fi, hatta neredeyse ya\u015fama amac\u0131 haline getirdi\u011fi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n travmalar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6z ard\u0131 edebiliyor. Bilin\u00e7li mi bilin\u00e7siz mi yap\u0131yorlar? Kendi i\u00e7inizdeki kavgalar\u0131 bir yana b\u0131rak\u0131n, kimlikleriniz ayn\u0131 kals\u0131n, \u00e7ocu\u011funuz mutlu olsun.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Anne baba kimli\u011finizi koruyun<\/strong><br \/>\n18 ya\u015f alt\u0131ndaki \u00e7ocuklar, kimli\u011fini \u00f6zde\u015fle\u015fti\u011fi anne\/babadan al\u0131r. Anne kimli\u011fini korumak, baba kimli\u011fini korumak \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. Anne ve baban\u0131n kendi aralar\u0131ndaki problemin gitme zaman\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesi \u00e7ocu\u011fun kimli\u011fine neden etki etsin ki? <strong>Anne ve baba bazen \u201cd\u00fc\u015fman\u201d kimli\u011fini kabullenip buna uygun davran\u0131\u015flarla kimlik d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fcn \u00e7ocuklar \u00fczerindeki etkisini umursamay\u0131p, davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 neredeyse stratejik boyutta anlamland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fun ne hissetti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcyor.<\/strong> Ayr\u0131l\u0131nca her \u015fey kopuyor, bitiyor zannediliyor. <strong>\u00c7ocuk i\u00e7in anne ve baba kimli\u011fi de\u011fi\u015fmezken, baba i\u00e7in annenin, anne i\u00e7in baban\u0131n kimlik tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fi\u015fmesi 18 ya\u015f alt\u0131nda travmaya yol a\u00e7ar.<\/strong> Daha \u00f6nceki anne kimli\u011fi baban\u0131n daha sonra yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fekilde toplum taraf\u0131ndan onaylanmayan anne haline gelebilir. \u00c7ocuk i\u00e7in bu davran\u0131\u015f haks\u0131zl\u0131k de\u011fil midir? \u00c7ocuk, <strong>anne ve baba<\/strong> kimli\u011fini de\u011fi\u015ftirmeli midir? Anne ve baba de\u011ferli, sayg\u0131 uyand\u0131rand\u0131r \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in\u2026 Ve b\u00f6yle de devam etmelidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ki\u015fisel \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za yans\u0131tmay\u0131n<\/strong><br \/>\nAnne ve babalar bo\u015fanma s\u00fcrecinde ve sonras\u0131nda iki ki\u015fi aras\u0131ndaki tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131, sevgisizli\u011fi \u00e7ok sevdiklerini s\u00f6yledikleri \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na yans\u0131tmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Anne ve baba bo\u015fanman\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar \u00fczerindeki olumsuz etkisini en aza indirerek \u00e7ocu\u011funun hayat\u0131ndaki dengeyi ve d\u00fczeni sa\u011flamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>B\u00fct\u00fcn ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7lar g\u00fczeldir. Kad\u0131n ve erkek birbirlerini \u00e7ok sever, tamamland\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 hisseder ve evlenir. Her \u015fey yolundayken bazen gitme zaman\u0131 gelir ve bir \u015fekilde evlilik biter. Bo\u015fanma anne, baba ve \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in zor bir s\u00fcre\u00e7tir. Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7 \u00f6zellikle \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. Bo\u015fan\u0131rken \u00e7ocu\u011funuzda travma yaratmay\u0131n Gitme zaman\u0131n\u0131n zarafeti her ayr\u0131l\u0131\u015fta oldu\u011fu gibi bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131nda da [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":17,"featured_media":3029,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[19],"tags":[2382,2381,2385,2384,2387,2383,2386],"class_list":{"0":"post-3006","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-evlilik","8":"tag-anne-ve-baba","9":"tag-anne-ve-babanin-bosanmasi","10":"tag-bebek-kucukken-bosanmak","11":"tag-bebek-varken-bosanmak","12":"tag-bosanma-cocuga-nasil-anlatilir","13":"tag-bosanmak-icin-cocugun-uygun-yasi","14":"tag-bosanmis-ailenin-cocugu-olmak"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bosanma-problemleri.jpg?fit=626%2C539&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3006","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/17"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3006"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3006\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3029"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3006"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3006"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3006"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}