{"id":2737,"date":"2018-07-16T10:38:30","date_gmt":"2018-07-16T07:38:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=2737"},"modified":"2018-07-16T10:38:30","modified_gmt":"2018-07-16T07:38:30","slug":"kisa-sureli-ayriliklar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/kisa-sureli-ayriliklar\/","title":{"rendered":"K\u0131sa s\u00fcreli ayr\u0131l\u0131klar"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Hani derler ya; \u00d6nce can sonra canan. Bir kad\u0131n anne olduktan sona o canda canan da yaln\u0131zca evlatt\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Bazen hayatta k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli ayr\u0131l\u0131klar olur. Aileden, sevdiklerinden, arkada\u015f \u00e7evreden k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli e\u011fitim, i\u015f, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn her ne ise i\u015fte o ayr\u0131l\u0131klar zor gelir insana ve kavu\u015fmak i\u00e7in g\u00fcn sayars\u0131n. Zor gelse de gidersin zaruridir \u00a0ya de\u011fildir. Bir \u015fekilde gidersin.<\/p>\n<p>Evlendi\u011finde daha da zor gelir gelir ayr\u0131l\u0131klar \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc y\u00e2rini b\u0131rak\u0131p gitmek koyar insana, bilirsin o bir ba\u015f\u0131na kalacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra evlat sahibi olursun koyun koyuna uyursun. <strong>Kokusunu \u00e7ekersin i\u00e7ine ta derine en derine ve hi\u00e7 ayr\u0131lmazs\u0131n yavrundan \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc uyurken bile \u00f6zlersin.<\/strong> Her sabah yeniden koklars\u0131n sanki ilk g\u00fcnk\u00fc gibi, doyamazs\u0131n kokusunu i\u00e7ine \u00e7ekmeye, ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 ok\u015fars\u0131n. Ne yemek yapsam da hem sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 beslensin hem de karn\u0131 duysun diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn. Hangi oyunlar\u0131 oynasam ve neler \u00f6\u011fretsem diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn. G\u00fcnler b\u00f6yle ak\u0131p gider. Hi\u00e7 ayr\u0131lmayacak gibi ya\u015fars\u0131n. \u00c7al\u0131\u015fan anneleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn, zaman zaman ve ben olsam \u00e7ocu\u011fumu b\u0131rakmam dersin. Her sabah \u00f6p\u00fcp koklay\u0131p ayr\u0131lmak ak\u015fam olsa eve d\u00f6nsem diye beklemek ve her g\u00fcn tekrar tekrar ayn\u0131 \u015feyleri ya\u015famak \u00e7ok \u00fcrk\u00fct\u00fcc\u00fc gelir ama onlar mecburdur. Kimi ekonomik s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden kimi aile b\u00fct\u00e7esine katk\u0131 olsun diye kimi de hem kariyer yap\u0131p hem de \u00e7ocuk b\u00fcy\u00fctmek i\u00e7in sabreder gergin ayr\u0131 kalmaya ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan anla\u015f\u0131lmaz. <strong>Oysa hayata bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 ya\u015fan\u0131lanlar ile \u015fekillenir. <\/strong>Belki de b\u00f6ylesi bir duruma maruz kalmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7in anlamamay\u0131 tercih etmi\u015f olmak kolaya gelir.<\/p>\n<p>Sonra yavrunun karde\u015fleri olur. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n, canlar\u0131n, hayata anlam katanlar\u0131n y\u00fcre\u011finin \u00fcst\u00fcne koydu\u011fun nefes alma sebeplerin ve yap\u0131\u015f\u0131k ikizler, \u00fc\u00e7\u00fczler, d\u00f6rd\u00fczler olarak dola\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n. B\u00fcy\u00fcrler ve ak\u0131llar\u0131 erdik\u00e7e sayg\u0131 duyars\u0131n. <strong>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n<\/strong> <strong>ya\u015flar\u0131 ka\u00e7 olursa olsun birer birey olduklar\u0131n\u0131 bilsinler istersin. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sonra bir g\u00fcn gelir mecburen k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli bir ayr\u0131l\u0131k ya\u015famak zorunda kal\u0131rs\u0131n. \u015eartlar onu gerektirir ve kar\u015f\u0131 koyamazs\u0131n elin kolun ba\u011fl\u0131 olur. <strong>Bug\u00fcne kadar ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n ayr\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n en zorudur evlatlar\u0131ndan ayr\u0131 kalmak bilirsin.<\/strong> Ne uyku kal\u0131r ne de huzur ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fck\u00e7e y\u00fcre\u011fin daralacak gibi olur. Oysa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan anneler her g\u00fcn ya\u015far bunu ve anlamaya ba\u015flars\u0131n. Elde olmayan nedenlerden ayr\u0131 d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcklerini, \u00fcz\u00fclsen de bo\u015funad\u0131r. <strong>Hayat olgunla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r insan\u0131 ve t\u00fcm \u00f6n yarg\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 en zay\u0131f noktas\u0131ndan yakalar ve k\u0131rar. <\/strong>B\u00fcy\u00fck lokma ye b\u00fcy\u00fck laf s\u00f6yleme derler. S\u00f6yledi\u011fin o b\u00fcy\u00fck laflar g\u00fcn gelir gedi\u011fine \u00f6yle bir oturur ki nefes alamazs\u0131n. <strong>B\u00fcy\u00fcmek, anne olmak, olgunla\u015fmak bu olsa gerekir. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00c7anta haz\u0131rlars\u0131n kendine ve y\u00fcre\u011fine otura otura \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ilk defa \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na k\u0131yafet koymamak y\u00fcre\u011fine koyar. <strong>Ne zormu\u015f anne olmak dersin.<\/strong> Usul usul ya\u015flar d\u00f6k\u00fcl\u00fcr g\u00f6z\u00fcnden, a\u011flars\u0131n i\u00e7in i\u00e7in ve bir daha olmaz dersin. \u0130lk ve son kez ayr\u0131 gidece\u011fin bu yolculukta bir daha asla onlars\u0131z gitmeyece\u011fine kendi kendine s\u00f6z verirsin.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Allah kimseyi evlad\u0131ndan ay\u0131rmas\u0131n. <\/strong>Ayr\u0131 k\u00f6\u015felere koymas\u0131n. K\u0131sa s\u00fcreli bile olsa \u00a0ayr\u0131 k\u00f6\u015felerde olmak bu kadar zorken, birde \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 ebediyete g\u00f6nderenlerin neler hissetti\u011fini anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmekten daha zor gelir. <strong>O y\u00fczden her g\u00fcn\u00fc yeni ba\u015ftan ya\u015famal\u0131 ve o do\u011frultuda yol almal\u0131, evlat sevgisi ba\u015fka hi\u00e7bir \u015feye benzemiyor, her g\u00fcn\u00fc \u015f\u00fckretmek gerekir. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hani derler ya; \u00d6nce can sonra canan. Bir kad\u0131n anne olduktan sona o canda canan da yaln\u0131zca evlatt\u0131r. Bazen hayatta k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli ayr\u0131l\u0131klar olur. Aileden, sevdiklerinden, arkada\u015f \u00e7evreden k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli e\u011fitim, i\u015f, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn her ne ise i\u015fte o ayr\u0131l\u0131klar zor gelir insana ve kavu\u015fmak i\u00e7in g\u00fcn sayars\u0131n. Zor gelse de gidersin zaruridir \u00a0ya de\u011fildir. 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