{"id":2437,"date":"2018-06-18T11:58:49","date_gmt":"2018-06-18T08:58:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=2437"},"modified":"2018-06-18T11:58:49","modified_gmt":"2018-06-18T08:58:49","slug":"bayram-da-babalar-gunu-de-zehir-oldu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/bayram-da-babalar-gunu-de-zehir-oldu\/","title":{"rendered":"Bayram da, babalar g\u00fcn\u00fc de zehir oldu!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131 velayet sorumlulu\u011fu tek tarafl\u0131 verilip, babalar\u0131 hayatta iken \u00f6ks\u00fcz b\u0131rak\u0131lan \u00e7ocuklar, bu bayram da kulaklar\u0131 kap\u0131 zilinde beklediler. Kap\u0131 \u00e7alsa da f\u0131rlay\u0131p a\u00e7sam, boynuna sar\u0131lsam diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnemediler bile…\u00a0\u00a0B\u00f6yle bir sevgi g\u00f6sterisinin sonras\u0131nda alacaklar\u0131 tepki, ceza ve belki dayak korkusuyla?!.. Bug\u00fcn sizlerle bayram tatili ve “Babalar G\u00fcn\u00fc<\/strong>” nedeniyle ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u00e7ifte \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcm\u00fc payla\u015fmak istiyorum….<\/p>\n

Cebinde paras\u0131 olmayan baba, bu bayramda ba\u011fr\u0131na ta\u015f bast\u0131
\n<\/b>Asgari \u00fccretle \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir\u00e7ok baba, ald\u0131klar\u0131 asgari \u00fccretten artt\u0131rabildi\u011fiyle g\u00fcnler \u00f6ncesinde ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131 i\u015flemlere…. \u0130cra m\u00fcd\u00fcrl\u00fckleri ana baba g\u00fcn\u00fcyd\u00fc o hafta. \u0130cra memuru ve Sosyal Hizmet Uzman\u0131 bulabilmek i\u00e7in hafta ba\u015f\u0131nda ba\u015flad\u0131 i\u015flemler.<\/strong> \u015eans\u0131 yaver gidenler bayram\u0131n ikinci g\u00fcn\u00fc de olsa evlad\u0131na sar\u0131l\u0131p, doyas\u0131ya koklayabilince t\u00fcm s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 unuttu. Ta ki \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n teslim saati gelinceye kadar….<\/p>\n

<\/b>Ekonomik ve psikolojik \u015fiddet ma\u011fduru babalar \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm bekliyor
\n<\/b>Bir\u00e7ok kez \u00e7ocuk teslim merkezlerinin kurulmas\u0131 i\u00e7in ba\u015fvuru yapt\u0131k ancak Aile ve Sosyal Politikalar Bakanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 talebimizi dikkate alaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, \u00fczerinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma yapmak \u00fczere kay\u0131t alt\u0131na al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bildiren cevaplar yazd\u0131lar. Hala sab\u0131rla bekliyoruz. Bu \u00fclkenin gelece\u011fini, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 her \u015feyin \u00fcst\u00fcnde tutacak irade elbet bu zulme dur diyecektir.<\/p>\n

<\/b>Dinini bilmeyen gen\u00e7ler yeti\u015ftiriyoruz
\n<\/b>Ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131mda 3 ya\u015f\u0131nda olan o\u011flum,\u00a0\u015fu anda\u00a010 ya\u015f\u0131nda.\u00a0\u00a0Bug\u00fcne kadar bir kez olsun ne cuma, ne de bayram namaz\u0131na g\u00f6t\u00fcremedim ben o\u011flumu. Bu bayram ayn\u0131 g\u00fcne denk gelen, hem cuma hem de bayram namaz\u0131na evlad\u0131yla gelebilen babalara imrenerek bakt\u0131m yine… Sadece benim\u00a0hakk\u0131mda de\u011fil, t\u00fcm yurtta bu \u015fekilde karar veriyor aile mahkemeleri. Aksine bir tane \u00f6rnek bulamad\u0131m. \u00c7ocuklar ya cumartesi sabahlar\u0131 ayda iki defa ya da bayram\u0131n ikinci g\u00fcn\u00fc babalar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131na gelebiliyor. Arife g\u00fcn\u00fc gelmeyince bayram namaz\u0131na gitmek te m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olam\u0131yor haliyle. Hristiyan olsayd\u0131m, Pazar g\u00fcn\u00fc yan\u0131mda olan o\u011flumla ibadetimi yapabilirdim ama M\u00fcsl\u00fcman oldu\u011fum i\u00e7in evlad\u0131ma dini e\u011fitim vermem ve \u00f6rnek olmama bu \u00fclkenin mahkemeleri verdikleri kararlarla engel oluyor.<\/p>\n

<\/b>Babalar g\u00fcn\u00fc m\u00fc?!
\n<\/b>Ay\u0131n ikinci ve d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc hafta sonu babalar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131na gelebilen \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u00a0maalesef babalar\u0131yla “Babalar G\u00fcn\u00fc<\/strong>“nde bir arada olmas\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fil. Babalar g\u00fcn\u00fc de di\u011fer \u00f6zel g\u00fcnler gibi hep ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131lan, g\u00fcn\u00fcnde kutlanmayan g\u00fcnlerden bir tanesi sadece. Baba kavram\u0131na hak etti\u011fi \u00f6nemi ve sayg\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6sterebilmek i\u00e7in; ailenin sadece kad\u0131n, \u00e7ocuk, engelli ve ya\u015fl\u0131dan olu\u015fan bir kurum olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131na varmak gerekir.<\/p>\n

Babalar g\u00fcn\u00fcnde yan\u0131mda olamayan evlad\u0131m\u0131 ben aray\u0131p ula\u015ft\u0131m aram\u0131zdaki aram\u0131zda ge\u00e7en konu\u015fmay\u0131 hi\u00e7bir yorum yapmadan sizlere aktar\u0131yorum:<\/p>\n

– Alo, O\u011flum merhaba, Nas\u0131ls\u0131n?<\/p>\n

– \u0130yiyim.<\/p>\n

– Biliyorsun bug\u00fcn babalar g\u00fcn\u00fc sen aramay\u0131nca ben aramak istedim. Sana s\u00f6ylemek istediklerim var. Benim bir baba olmam\u0131 sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7in te\u015fekk\u00fcr ederim. Senin gibi bir evlad\u0131m oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u015fansl\u0131y\u0131m. \u0130yi ki do\u011fdun, iyi ki vars\u0131n. Seni \u00e7ok seviyorum can\u0131m o\u011flum.<\/p>\n

– \u2026\u2026\u2026..<\/p>\n

– S\u00f6ylediklerimi duydun mu o\u011flum?<\/p>\n

– Evet<\/p>\n

– Konu\u015fam\u0131yorsun san\u0131r\u0131m.<\/p>\n

– \u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026.<\/p>\n

– Bunlar\u0131 s\u00f6ylemek i\u00e7in aram\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. iyi geceler o\u011flum. Allaha emanet ol.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklar bizim her \u015feyimiz, bu \u00fclkenin gelece\u011fi de onlara emanet ama biz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za, gelece\u011fimize \u00a0yeteri kadar sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor muyuz acaba?<\/p>\n

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Bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131 velayet sorumlulu\u011fu tek tarafl\u0131 verilip, babalar\u0131 hayatta iken \u00f6ks\u00fcz b\u0131rak\u0131lan \u00e7ocuklar, bu bayram da kulaklar\u0131 kap\u0131 zilinde beklediler. Kap\u0131 \u00e7alsa da f\u0131rlay\u0131p a\u00e7sam, boynuna sar\u0131lsam diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnemediler bile…\u00a0\u00a0B\u00f6yle bir sevgi g\u00f6sterisinin sonras\u0131nda alacaklar\u0131 tepki, ceza ve belki dayak korkusuyla?!.. Bug\u00fcn sizlerle bayram tatili ve “Babalar G\u00fcn\u00fc” nedeniyle ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u00e7ifte \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcm\u00fc payla\u015fmak istiyorum…. Cebinde […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":2438,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[589,1847,1866,1867,1865,1678],"class_list":["post-2437","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-aile","tag-baba-olmak","tag-babalar-gunu","tag-bosanmis-ailelerin-cocuklari","tag-bosanmis-anne-babanin-cocugu","tag-bosanmis-babalar","tag-cocuk-haczi"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/uzgun-cocuk.jpg?fit=626%2C417&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2437","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2437"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2437\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2438"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2437"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2437"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2437"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}