{"id":2432,"date":"2018-06-18T14:59:54","date_gmt":"2018-06-18T11:59:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=2432"},"modified":"2018-06-18T14:59:54","modified_gmt":"2018-06-18T11:59:54","slug":"buyukanne-ve-buyukbaba-ile-iliskiler-cocuk-icin-neden-onemli","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/buyukanne-ve-buyukbaba-ile-iliskiler-cocuk-icin-neden-onemli\/","title":{"rendered":"B\u00fcy\u00fckanne ve b\u00fcy\u00fckbaba ile ili\u015fkiler \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in neden \u00f6nemli?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: small;\">Yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalara g\u00f6re bebek ya da \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n psikososyal geli\u015fiminde b\u00fcy\u00fckanne\/babalar\u0131n rolleri ile ilgili ara\u015ft\u0131rma sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 \u00e7eli\u015fkilidir. Onlar\u0131n\u00a0\u00e7ocuk bak\u0131m\u0131na\u00a0kar\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 ile geli\u015fim \u00fczerine olumlu etki oldu\u011funu bildiren sonu\u00e7lar yan\u0131nda; hi\u00e7bir etkinin olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131, hatta olumsuz etkilerin olabilece\u011fini bildiren ara\u015ft\u0131rma sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 da vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>B<\/strong><\/span><strong>\u00fcy\u00fckanne veya b\u00fcy\u00fckbabalar\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fimi \u00fczerindeki rol\u00fc ya da etkilerini g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irirken belirli ba\u015fl\u0131klar alt\u0131nda ele almak uygun olacakt\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Aile b\u00fcy\u00fcklerinin normal sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fiminde rolleri:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocuk psikiyatrisinde bebe\u011fin psikososyal ya da psikoseks\u00fcel geli\u015fimi g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde bulunduruldu\u011funda; ilk 9 ay (ortalama ilk y\u0131l) i\u00e7inde bebe\u011fin<strong> &#8220;Temel bak\u0131m\u0131 veren bir ki\u015fi&#8221;<\/strong> ile s\u00fcrekli, tutarl\u0131 ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 g\u00fcvene dayal\u0131 doyurucu ili\u015fkisinin \u00f6nemi konusunda fikir birli\u011fi vard\u0131r. Burada \u00f6zel bir ki\u015fi verilmemektedir. Genellikle annenin fiziksel ve ruhsal sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile ilgili \u00f6nemli bir sorun yoksa temel bak\u0131m\u0131 veren ki\u015fi annedir ve <strong>bebek<\/strong> i\u00e7in ya\u015fam\u0131n ilk y\u0131l\u0131nda anne ile olan ili\u015fki \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Gebelik, do\u011fum ve do\u011fum sonras\u0131 anne sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/strong> ile ilgili olas\u0131 sorunlar yan\u0131nda bu d\u00f6neme \u00f6zg\u00fc ruhsal bozukluklar g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcne al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda temel bak\u0131m veren ki\u015finin her zaman anne olamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyoruz. Bu d\u00f6nemdeki ruhsal sorunlardan; annenin gebelik \u00f6ncesi ruhsal sorunlar\u0131n\u0131n alevlenmesi, annelik h\u00fczn\u00fc, postpartum depresyon ya da psikoz gibi bozukluklar\u0131 bebe\u011fe bak\u0131m vermesini k\u0131sa ya da uzun s\u00fcreli engellemektedir. Bu durumlarda Temel bak\u0131m veren ki\u015finin \u00e7ocu\u011fu ger\u00e7ekten seven ve ona ba\u011flanacak bir ki\u015fi olmas\u0131 gerekmektedir. Bu da kan ba\u011f\u0131 olan bir yak\u0131n olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fun k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli bak\u0131m\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck anneler ve babalar devreye girebilir<\/strong><br \/>\nAnnenin \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131, di\u011fer fiziksel yak\u0131nmalar\u0131, \u00e7ocuktan k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli ayr\u0131lmalar\u0131. \u0130lk y\u0131l i\u00e7inde temel bak\u0131m veren ki\u015fiden uzun s\u00fcreli ayr\u0131lmalar\u0131 \u00f6nermiyoruz. Bebekte nesne s\u00fcreklili\u011fi olu\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan, annenin ayr\u0131lmas\u0131 ve yeniden d\u00f6nece\u011fine ili\u015fkin zihinsel-psikososyal geli\u015fim yoktur. Bu d\u00f6nemde anneden ayr\u0131lan s\u00fcreye g\u00f6re \u00e7ocukta \u00e7e\u015fitli belirtiler g\u00f6r\u00fclmektedir. \u00d6zellikle hastaneye yat\u0131\u015flarda bilindi\u011fi gibi yuva hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya da anaklitik depresyon ad\u0131n\u0131 verdi\u011fimiz a\u011f\u0131r depresyon tablosu olu\u015fabilmektedir. Bu d\u00f6nemlerde de \u00e7ocu\u011fun k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli bak\u0131m\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck anne babalar devreye girebileceklerdir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015ftaki \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu kan ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131z olan ki\u015filere emanet edin<\/strong><br \/>\n\u00c7ocuk 9 aydan sonra anne babadan k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli ayr\u0131labilmekte ancak kre\u015f gibi okul \u00f6ncesi kurumlara uyum sa\u011flayabilmek i\u00e7in gerekli sosyalle\u015fmeyi yakla\u015f\u0131k 2.5-3 ya\u015f\u0131nda kazanmaktad\u0131r. \u00c7al\u0131\u015fan anne babalar\u0131n giderek artt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7evremizde kre\u015fe kadar olan d\u00f6nemde \u00e7ocu\u011fun bak\u0131m\u0131 ile ilgili sorun ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r. \u015eimdiye kadar olan deneyimlerimizden; bu d\u00f6nemde s\u0131kl\u0131kla bak\u0131c\u0131 anne ya da ablalar\u0131n devreye girdi\u011fini biliyoruz. Sizlerin s\u0131kl\u0131kla tan\u0131k oldu\u011funuz kaza ve yaralanmalar bu d\u00f6nemde olmakta, \u00e7ocu\u011fun dil ve motor geli\u015fim gibi bir\u00e7ok alandaki geli\u015fimi bu bak\u0131c\u0131lar taraf\u0131ndan kar\u015f\u0131lanamamakta, hatta \u00e7ocuklar kontrol edemedi\u011fimiz bu ili\u015fki s\u0131ras\u0131nda \u00e7e\u015fitli ihmal ve istismarlarla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya kalmaktad\u0131rlar. Kendini koruma ve ifade etmeden yoksun olan bu ya\u015f grubunda da bu ara bak\u0131m\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fu sevebilecek kan ba\u011f\u0131 olan ki\u015filerce verilmesini \u00f6neriyoruz. Sosyalle\u015fmeye ge\u00e7mede b\u00fcy\u00fckanne\/babalar bu d\u00f6nemde \u00f6nemlidir. Anne babadan \u00e7ok yabanc\u0131 olmayan, tan\u0131k y\u00fczlere ge\u00e7me \u00e7ocu\u011fun uyumunu art\u0131racakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>B\u00fcy\u00fcklerin deneyimlerinden faydalan\u0131n<\/strong><br \/>\nBunun d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda ilk \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na kavu\u015fan deneyimsiz anne baba i\u00e7in bu d\u00f6nemi ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f ki\u015filerin deneyimleri de yararl\u0131 olabilir. Bunun d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fun anne ya da baba kayb\u0131 ya da uzun s\u00fcreli ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlarda da b\u00fcy\u00fckanne\/babalar\u0131n rol\u00fc \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n<p>Ancak bu say\u0131lan olumlu katk\u0131lar yan\u0131nda ge\u00e7mi\u015fle ilgili aktar\u0131lan ve bilimsel olmayan b\u00fcy\u00fckanne\/baba deneyimlerinin \u00e7ocu\u011fun fiziksel sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile ilgili olumsuzluklar\u0131 tart\u0131\u015f\u0131labilir. Bu \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirme ve psikosoyal geli\u015fiminde de kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 olabilmektedir. \u00d6zellikle aile terapistlerinin \u00fczerinde durdu\u011fu; anne baba i\u00e7in ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kazanm\u0131\u015f ve yeni bir ev kuracak olgunlu\u011fa gelmi\u015f bireyler de\u011fillerse, b\u00fcy\u00fckanne\/baba i\u00e7in de yeti\u015ftirilen neslin evden ayr\u0131lmalar\u0131n\u0131 kabullenecek olgunlukta de\u011fillerse iki ayr\u0131 ev hi\u00e7bir zaman olu\u015fam\u0131yor ve bireysel ya da eskilerden gelen \u00f6zellikler fark\u0131nda olmadan bebek anne-baba ili\u015fkisine aktar\u0131labiliyor.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Disiplin \u015fart<\/strong><br \/>\nBunun sonucunda \u00e7ocu\u011fa farkl\u0131 tutum ve mesajlar aktar\u0131lmaya ba\u015fl\u0131yor. Disiplin sorunlar\u0131 (bir yanda disiplin verilmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131rken di\u011fer yanda ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fc, tolerans), \u00e7ocuk \u00fczerinden aktar\u0131lan olumsuz duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler (annen beceriksizin teki, baban k\u0131z\u0131ma uygun biri de\u011fil) buna \u00f6rnek verilebilir. Disiplin d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00f6zde\u015fimi, olumlu annebaba \u00e7ocuk ili\u015fkisinin bozulmas\u0131 gibi<\/p>\n<p>B\u00fcy\u00fcklerin \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fimi \u00fczerine etkisinde \u015fu \u00f6zelliklerin de etkisi oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyoruz: Birlikte ya da ayr\u0131 ya\u015fama (\u00e7ekirdek-geni\u015f aile), B\u00fcy\u00fcklerin fiziksel sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 (hastal\u0131klar\u0131, kay\u0131plar\u0131 ve \u00e7ocu\u011fa geli\u015fim d\u00f6nemine g\u00f6re etkisi), Anne baban\u0131n ekonomik ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya da b\u00fcy\u00fcklere ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bo\u015fanma sonucu annenin yerini b\u00fcy\u00fckanne al\u0131yor<\/strong><br \/>\nBo\u015fanma sonucu da\u011f\u0131lan ailelerde anne babadan biri \u00e7ocukla ya\u015famakta ve di\u011fer ebeveyn aral\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fu g\u00f6rmektedir. B\u00f6ylesi ayr\u0131l\u0131klar s\u0131kl\u0131kla ayr\u0131lan e\u015fler i\u00e7in travmatik olmakta ve e\u015fler anne ya da babalar\u0131 ile birlikte ya\u015famaya ba\u015flamaktad\u0131rlar. Bu ailelerde di\u011fer ebeveynin yerine s\u0131kl\u0131kla b\u00fcy\u00fck anne ya da b\u00fcy\u00fckbaba girerek anne ya da baba rol\u00fc \u00fcstlenmektedirler. \u00c7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fim d\u00f6nemine g\u00f6re bir\u00e7ok olumsuzluk ba\u015flamaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz toplumunda giderek \u00e7ekirdek aile (anne, baba ve \u00e7ocuklar) ya\u015fant\u0131s\u0131na ge\u00e7i\u015f oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in b\u00fcy\u00fckanne\/ babalar\u0131n bu kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 etkileri giderek azalmaktad\u0131r. Bak\u0131c\u0131lar, \u00f6\u011fretmenler ve kom\u015fular gibi \u00e7ocu\u011fun ya\u015fant\u0131s\u0131nda k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli etkileri olabilecek di\u011fer kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131c\u0131lard\u0131r. Anne baba ve \u00e7ocuktan olu\u015fan aile i\u00e7inde \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fimi destekleniyor ve bu kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131c\u0131lar k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli ya da kontrol edilebilir d\u00fczeyde kal\u0131yorsa \u00e7ocu\u011fun ruhsal geli\u015fimi a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan olumsuz ve kal\u0131c\u0131 etkilerini g\u00f6rm\u00fcyoruz.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalara g\u00f6re bebek ya da \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n psikososyal geli\u015fiminde b\u00fcy\u00fckanne\/babalar\u0131n rolleri ile ilgili ara\u015ft\u0131rma sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 \u00e7eli\u015fkilidir. Onlar\u0131n\u00a0\u00e7ocuk bak\u0131m\u0131na\u00a0kar\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 ile geli\u015fim \u00fczerine olumlu etki oldu\u011funu bildiren sonu\u00e7lar yan\u0131nda; hi\u00e7bir etkinin olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131, hatta olumsuz etkilerin olabilece\u011fini bildiren ara\u015ft\u0131rma sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 da vard\u0131r. B\u00fcy\u00fckanne veya b\u00fcy\u00fckbabalar\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fimi \u00fczerindeki rol\u00fc ya da etkilerini g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irirken belirli ba\u015fl\u0131klar alt\u0131nda ele [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":80,"featured_media":2442,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[225,1871,1870,1868,1869],"class_list":["post-2432","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-aile","tag-bebek-bakicisi","tag-bebek-bakicisi-buyukanne","tag-bosanan-anneler","tag-buyukanne","tag-buyukbaba"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/buyukanne-buyukbaba.jpg?fit=960%2C640&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2432","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/80"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2432"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2432\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2442"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2432"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2432"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2432"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}