{"id":2196,"date":"2018-05-30T13:52:40","date_gmt":"2018-05-30T10:52:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=2196"},"modified":"2018-05-30T13:52:40","modified_gmt":"2018-05-30T10:52:40","slug":"lafin-gelisi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/lafin-gelisi\/","title":{"rendered":"Laf\u0131n geli\u015fi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz g\u00fcnlerde bir markette al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f yaparken 1,5 ya\u015flar\u0131nda iki \u00e7ocu\u011fu bebek arabas\u0131nda olan bir anne \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na <strong>\u201cikinize de bir dayak ataca\u011f\u0131m eve gidince, ba\u015fka \u00e7arem kalmad\u0131.\u201d<\/strong> dedi. Bunu duyunca elimdekileri b\u0131rakt\u0131m ve anneye<strong> \u201cdayakla e\u011fitim d\u00f6nemi bitti san\u0131yordum\u201d<\/strong> dedim. Annenin cevab\u0131 ise ilgin\u00e7ti. <strong>\u201cOnlar benim i\u00e7in \u00e7ok de\u011ferli, \u00e7ok zor sahip oldu\u011fum \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ma dayak atar m\u0131y\u0131m hi\u00e7? Laf\u0131n geli\u015fi.\u201d<\/strong> dedi. Unutmay\u0131n beyin \u015fakay\u0131 alg\u0131lam\u0131yor, ne s\u00f6yleniyorsa onu al\u0131yor.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u201cLaf\u0131n Geli\u015fi\u201d<\/strong> hayat\u0131m\u0131zda ne kadar \u00e7ok kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir s\u00f6z. Kelimelerin ve s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerin g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc unutarak<strong> ne kadar \u00e7ok s\u00f6ylenmemesi gerekenleri \u201cLaf\u0131n Geli\u015fi\u201d ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda kullan\u0131yoruz fark ettiniz mi?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130nsan geli\u015fiminin ilk 4 y\u0131l\u0131 zihinsel geli\u015fimin en kritik evresidir.<\/strong> \u0130nsan zekas\u0131n\u0131n %502si 0-4 ya\u015f aras\u0131nda, %30\u2019u 4-8 ya\u015f aras\u0131nda, %20\u2019sinin 8 -17 ya\u015f aras\u0131nda geli\u015fti\u011fi bilinmektedir. <strong>Ebeveynler olarak \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131zla konu\u015furken s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerin g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc kullanmal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/strong> Beyin s\u00f6ylenen her \u015feyi do\u011fru olarak alg\u0131l\u0131yor. O halde onlara s\u00f6yledi\u011fimiz her \u015feyi oldu\u011fu gibi alg\u0131lad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 bilmeliyiz.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ok sevdi\u011fimiz, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n en \u00f6zel ki\u015fileri olan belki de y\u0131llard\u0131r olmas\u0131 i\u00e7in bekledi\u011fimiz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131zla bile konu\u015furken kelimelerimize dikkat etmiyoruz. <strong>S\u00f6zc\u00fckler bize neler anlat\u0131yor, konu\u015furken bile y\u00f6netemedi\u011fimiz s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerimiz neler yarat\u0131yor, biliyor muyuz?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Bir ba\u015fka arkada\u015f\u0131m \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n ne kadar ho\u015f oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi\u011fimde<strong> \u201ci\u00e7i beni, d\u0131\u015f\u0131 sizi yakar\u201d<\/strong> dedi. Oysa ki \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ven bir c\u00fcmleye kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k te\u015fekk\u00fcrler demesi gerekirken olumsuz c\u00fcmleler s\u0131ralad\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocu\u011fumuz ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011funda kendisini sevmedi\u011fimizi s\u00f6yler, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 oldu\u011funda ise alk\u0131\u015flarsak ko\u015fullu sevgi alg\u0131lan\u0131r. <strong>Asl\u0131nda anne ve baba \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 ko\u015fulsuz sever.<\/strong> Farkl\u0131 bir alg\u0131lama \u00e7ocu\u011fun sevgi alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 da farkl\u0131la\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. Yeti\u015fkin d\u00f6neminde bu alg\u0131 ki\u015finin ya\u015famdaki mutlulu\u011funu olumsuz y\u00f6nde etkileyecek ve inanc\u0131n d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fclmesi i\u00e7in zaman harcanacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za her f\u0131rsatta kendileri i\u00e7in yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z fedakarl\u0131ktan s\u00f6z ediyoruz.<\/strong> Sa\u00e7\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcp\u00fcrge etmek de bu \u015fekilde deyim haline gelmedi mi? Anne \u00e7ocu\u011fu i\u00e7in yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 her \u015feyi i\u00e7inden geldi\u011fi, anne olarak \u00fcstlendi\u011fi sorumluluk i\u00e7in yapar. <strong>O halde neredeyse \u00e7ocu\u011fumuzu su\u00e7lar gibi fedakarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 neden tekrar tekrar onlara hat\u0131rlatmak ve onlar\u0131 bize bor\u00e7lu hale getirmek istiyoruz?<\/strong> \u00d6zellikle evliliklerde ya\u015fanan bir sorun varsa \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcp, sonra da sizler i\u00e7in bu eziyete katland\u0131m diyoruz. Bu t\u00fcr konu\u015fmalar \u00e7ocukta su\u00e7luluk duygusu uyand\u0131r\u0131yor, \u201chatta ben olmasayd\u0131m annem istedi\u011fi yolu se\u00e7erdi\u201d dedirtmiyor mu?<\/p>\n<p>B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131 anneler asla bilin\u00e7li olarak yapm\u0131yor, sonucun ne olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemiyor. Ancak kad\u0131n hisseder, \u00e7ocu\u011funa yararl\u0131 olacak her neyse hisseder ve yapar. <strong>Mevlana \u201cKad\u0131n Hak nurudur, sevgili de\u011fil, sanki Yaradand\u0131r, Yarat\u0131lm\u0131\u015f de\u011fil\u201d<\/strong> <strong>derken kad\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc ne g\u00fczel anlat\u0131yor.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>S\u00f6zc\u00fcklerin g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc hayat\u0131n\u0131zda uygulay\u0131n. <strong>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z ile ilgili ileti\u015fiminizde \u201cLaf\u0131n Geli\u015fi\u201d demeyin.<\/strong> Laf\u0131n geli\u015fi var bir de nereye gidi\u015fi\u2026 Laf\u0131n geli\u015finden \u00e7ok gitti\u011fi yere dikkat edelim.<\/p>\n<p><strong><\/p>\n<p><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz g\u00fcnlerde bir markette al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f yaparken 1,5 ya\u015flar\u0131nda iki \u00e7ocu\u011fu bebek arabas\u0131nda olan bir anne \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na \u201cikinize de bir dayak ataca\u011f\u0131m eve gidince, ba\u015fka \u00e7arem kalmad\u0131.\u201d dedi. Bunu duyunca elimdekileri b\u0131rakt\u0131m ve anneye \u201cdayakla e\u011fitim d\u00f6nemi bitti san\u0131yordum\u201d dedim. Annenin cevab\u0131 ise ilgin\u00e7ti. \u201cOnlar benim i\u00e7in \u00e7ok de\u011ferli, \u00e7ok zor sahip oldu\u011fum \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ma dayak atar [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":17,"featured_media":1829,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1111],"tags":[1648,1646,1649,1647],"class_list":{"0":"post-2196","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-yasam","8":"tag-anne-ve-cocuk-iletisim","9":"tag-lafin-gelisi","10":"tag-olumsuz-davranislar","11":"tag-sozcuklerin-gucu"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/anne-bebek-cocuk.jpg?fit=626%2C417&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2196","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/17"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2196"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2196\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1829"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2196"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2196"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2196"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}