{"id":2145,"date":"2018-05-28T12:09:32","date_gmt":"2018-05-28T09:09:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=2145"},"modified":"2018-05-28T12:12:15","modified_gmt":"2018-05-28T09:12:15","slug":"tirnak-kadar-cocugun-psikolojisi-mi-olurmus","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/tirnak-kadar-cocugun-psikolojisi-mi-olurmus\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cT\u0131rnak kadar \u00e7ocu\u011fun psikolojisi mi olurmu\u015f?\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>\u015eimdiki uzmanlar (ne de \u00e7ok biliyor onlar)<\/strong> \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu \u00f6d\u00fclle cezaland\u0131rmay\u0131n dese de , biz k\u00f6\u015feyi d\u00f6nebilen g\u00fcd\u00fcml\u00fc <strong>anne terli\u011fine maruz kalarak b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f<\/strong> nesle \u00e7ocu\u011funa \u00f6d\u00fcl vermek pek de g\u00fczel bir \u015feymi\u015f gibi geliyor. Asl\u0131nda gibi gelmiyor, bence \u00e7ok da g\u00fczel bir \u015fey. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuk dedi\u011fin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n zaman kavram\u0131yla biz yeti\u015fkinlerin zaman kavram\u0131n\u0131n birbiriyle alakas\u0131 yok, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n hi\u00e7bir \u015fey i\u00e7in aceleleri yok, yaln\u0131zca kendi istedikleri \u015feyin d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda tabi. Mesela gecenin bir vakti akl\u0131na arabada unuttu\u011fu oyunca\u011f\u0131 gelir,<strong> \u201cK\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 tontik araban arabada o\u011flum, yar\u0131n sabah kre\u015fe giderken oynars\u0131n.\u201d<\/strong> Dersiniz, ama Ony\u00fczbinmilyon kere <strong>\u201canne al\u0131ym\u0131s\u0131n, l\u00fcpten l\u00fcpten l\u00fcpten\u201d<\/strong> der ve siz pijamalarla kendinizi otoparkta bulursunuz.<\/p>\n<p>Dedi\u011fim gibi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n hi\u00e7bir \u015fey i\u00e7in acelesi yok, siz sabah 6\u2019da kalk\u0131p, kahvalt\u0131n\u0131 ettirip, \u00e7antas\u0131n\u0131 haz\u0131rlay\u0131p evden \u00e7\u0131kmaya haz\u0131r bir hale getirdi\u011finiz evlad\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, tam kurumsal k\u0131mk\u0131m giyinmi\u015f\u00a0 ve topuklu ayakkab\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 aya\u011f\u0131n\u0131za ge\u00e7irip kap\u0131dan \u00e7\u0131kmak \u00fczereyken<strong> salonda bezini a\u00e7m\u0131\u015f kakas\u0131n\u0131 kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131rken bulabilirsiniz<\/strong>. Sizin toplant\u0131ya yeti\u015fip yeti\u015femeyece\u011finiz o an onun hi\u00e7 umurunda de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n<p>Ya da uyuyakal\u0131p tam iki aya\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir pabu\u00e7ta ko\u015ftururken, <strong>\u201cHay\u0131yy ben giyinmek istemiyoyum, yata\u011f\u0131m\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcnde z\u0131pl\u0131ycam.\u201d<\/strong> Da diyebilir. \u0130\u015fte o anlarda, o uzmanlar\u0131n dedi\u011fi gibi \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za al\u0131p, onun g\u00f6z hizas\u0131na inerek, sakin sakin neden \u00fczerini giyip arabaya inmesi gerekti\u011fini anlatmak pek i\u015fe yaramayabilir. Asl\u0131nda yazar burada <strong>\u201cvakti oldu\u011funda her \u015feyi sakin sakin anlatarak 2 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki veledin bunlar\u0131 anlay\u0131p, peki tamam annecim\u201d<\/strong> demesini beklemektedir. Ama i\u015fte teorik ve pratik her zaman uyu\u015fmayabiliyor. Ki ben kuzu 2 ya\u015f\u0131na gelene kadar, her \u015feyi kitab\u0131na uygun yapmak i\u00e7in o kadar u\u011fra\u015ft\u0131m ve de u\u011fra\u015ft\u0131m ki, \u00e7ocukca\u011f\u0131z\u0131m \u00e7ikolatan\u0131n tad\u0131n\u0131 bile bilmiyordu, ucundan az\u0131c\u0131k k\u0131r\u0131p koklatmad\u0131m bile. Hatta ilk lolipop g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde \u0131s\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131 da <strong>\u201canne ben bunu yiyemiyoyuuum\u201d<\/strong> diye \u015fa\u015ft\u0131 kald\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>Sonu\u00e7 olarak, yine hemen evden \u00e7\u0131kmam gereken bir anda, <strong>o\u011fulca\u011f\u0131z\u0131m, banane ben evde oyun oyn\u0131ycam diye tutturdu\u011funda<\/strong>, bana bir ayd\u0131nlanma geldi ve e\u011fer \u015fimdi benimle birlikte kap\u0131dan \u00e7\u0131karsan arabada \u00f6n koltu\u011fa oturmana izin verece\u011fim dememle Kerem\u2019i ayakkab\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 giymi\u015f bir \u015fekilde kap\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde bulmam bir oldu. Birlikte arabaya indik, \u00f6n yolcu koltu\u011funda 5 dk oturmas\u0131na izin verdim (ki araba \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmazken bile zinhar \u00f6n tarafa ge\u00e7mesi yasakt\u0131, niyeyse?) <strong>Mutlu \u00e7ocuk, mutlu anne<\/strong>, musmutlu evden \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p gittik. Tabii bu mutluluk bir hafta s\u00fcrd\u00fc. Bizim o\u011flan\u0131 \u00f6n yolcu koltu\u011fu kesmemeye ba\u015flay\u0131p kap\u0131dan \u00e7\u0131kmamakta diretmeye geri d\u00f6n\u00fcnce, g\u00f6rd\u00fcm ve artt\u0131rd\u0131m, bu sefer de s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc koltu\u011funa oturmas\u0131na izin verdim. Musmutlu bir hafta daha ge\u00e7ti, <strong>art\u0131k bu da kesmezse bagaja oturtmay\u0131 planl\u0131yorum.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Demem o ki, ister \u00f6d\u00fcl deyin ad\u0131na, ister r\u00fc\u015fvet, k\u0131sa vadede, kesin %100 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor,<\/strong> uzun vadede, gelecekte psikolojisinde ne t\u00fcp hasarlar b\u0131rak\u0131r diye soranlara da \u00e7ok sevgili kay\u0131nvalideci\u011fimin pek sevdi\u011fim s\u00f6zleri ile yan\u0131t vermek istiyorum <strong>\u201cT\u0131rnak kadar \u00e7ocu\u011fun psikolojisi mi olurmu\u015f?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>ps:<\/strong> \u015fekil 1A, yaz\u0131n\u0131n foto\u011fraf\u0131, Portakal suyunu bitirirsen \u00f6rdekleri kovalamana izin veririm r\u00fc\u015fveti \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u015eimdiki uzmanlar (ne de \u00e7ok biliyor onlar) \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu \u00f6d\u00fclle cezaland\u0131rmay\u0131n dese de , biz k\u00f6\u015feyi d\u00f6nebilen g\u00fcd\u00fcml\u00fc anne terli\u011fine maruz kalarak b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f nesle \u00e7ocu\u011funa \u00f6d\u00fcl vermek pek de g\u00fczel bir \u015feymi\u015f gibi geliyor. Asl\u0131nda gibi gelmiyor, bence \u00e7ok da g\u00fczel bir \u015fey. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuk dedi\u011fin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n zaman kavram\u0131yla biz yeti\u015fkinlerin zaman kavram\u0131n\u0131n birbiriyle alakas\u0131 yok, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":2146,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[1613,1612,1282,118,1610,1611],"class_list":{"0":"post-2145","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-cocuk","8":"tag-cocuga-ceza-vermek","9":"tag-cocuga-odul-vermek","10":"tag-cocuk-psikolojisi","11":"tag-cocuk-yetistirme","12":"tag-mutlu-anne","13":"tag-mutlu-cocuk"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/kerem-efendi-portakal-suyu-iciyor.jpg?fit=768%2C1024&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2145","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2145"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2145\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2146"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2145"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2145"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2145"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}