{"id":1656,"date":"2018-05-01T09:08:07","date_gmt":"2018-05-01T06:08:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=1656"},"modified":"2018-04-28T01:16:57","modified_gmt":"2018-04-27T22:16:57","slug":"bosanma-kararini-cocugunuza-nasil-soylemelisiniz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/bosanma-kararini-cocugunuza-nasil-soylemelisiniz\/","title":{"rendered":"Bo\u015fanma karar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011funuza nas\u0131l s\u00f6ylemelisiniz?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>E\u015flerin evlili\u011fi bitirme karar\u0131 almas\u0131 kolay de\u011fildir. <strong>\u00d6zellikle \u00e7ocuklu aileler i\u00e7in karar s\u00fcreci uzun ve zordur. E\u015flerin en \u00e7ok zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131 konu ise \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na bo\u015fanma karar\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l anlatacaklar\u0131d\u0131r. <\/strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fun bunu nas\u0131l kar\u015f\u0131layaca\u011f\u0131, en \u00f6nemlisi de bo\u015fanman\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fu gelecekte nas\u0131l etkileyece\u011fi konusu \u00e7ok kayg\u0131 duyulan bir durumdur.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6zellikle 8 ya\u015f\u0131na kadar olan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 olan aileler i\u00e7in bu durum daha da zorlay\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Daha b\u00fcy\u00fck ya\u015flarda, geli\u015fmi\u015f olan soyut d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilme ve fark\u0131ndal\u0131k nedeni ile \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n ileride ya\u015fayacaklar\u0131n\u0131 anlayabilmeleri veya s\u00fcreci yorumlayarak payla\u015fabilmeleri daha kolayd\u0131r.<br \/>\n<strong><br \/>\nBo\u015fanma s\u00fcrecinde \u00e7ocuk psikolojisi a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan karar\u0131n\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131klanmas\u0131 ve bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131 ebeveynli\u011fi devam ettirebilmesi \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. <\/strong>\u00a0Her iki s\u00fcre\u00e7te de dikkat edilmesi gereken en \u00f6nemli konu \u00e7ocuk a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan g\u00fcvenli aile kavram\u0131n\u0131 devam ettirmektir\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"yildizlibaslik\">Yine annen ve baban olaca\u011f\u0131z ama<\/span><\/strong><br \/>\nE\u015flerin bo\u015fanma karar\u0131 al\u0131rken bitirdi\u011fi g\u00f6revlerinin kar\u0131-koca olmak ve evlilik oldu\u011funu kaydeden \u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL N\u00f6ropsikiyatri Hastanesi\u2019nden Uzman Klinik Psikolog Hande Sinirlio\u011flu Erta\u015f Erta\u015f, \u00e7ocu\u011fa kendisiyle ilgili annelik ve babal\u0131k ili\u015fkisinin devam edece\u011finin anlat\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi. Erta\u015f, \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yledi:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cE\u015flerin bo\u015fanma karar\u0131 al\u0131rken bitirdi\u011fi ili\u015fki evliliktir. Anne ve baba olmak devam edecektir. \u00c7ocuk a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda anne ve baban\u0131n oldu\u011fu bir aile kavram\u0131 yeterlidir. <strong>\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in \u00f6nemli olan \u00f6zellikle k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flarda, yeni yeni \u00f6\u011frenmeye ba\u015flad\u0131klar\u0131 \u201ckocaman\u201d d\u00fcnyada g\u00fcvende olduklar\u0131n\u0131 bilmektir. <\/strong>Bo\u015fanma karar\u0131n\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131klanmas\u0131 s\u0131ras\u0131nda anne ve baban\u0131n birlikte yapaca\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klamada ailelerin bu konuya vurgu yapmalar\u0131 gerekir. \u00c7iftler bo\u015fanma karar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fa s\u00f6ylerken anla\u015famad\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in art\u0131k bir arada ya\u015famayacaklar\u0131n\u0131 ancak anne ve baba olmaya ve hep birlikte bir aile olmaya devam edeceklerini s\u00f6ylemeliler\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"yildizlibaslik\">\u200b<\/span>Karar evde a\u00e7\u0131klanmal\u0131, do\u011fal davran\u0131lmal\u0131<br \/>\n<\/strong><br \/>\nBo\u015fanma karar\u0131n\u0131n m\u00fcmk\u00fcnse ortak ya\u015fan\u0131lan evde \u00e7ocu\u011fa a\u00e7\u0131klanmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini de kaydeden Erta\u015f, a\u00e7\u0131klamada do\u011fal olunmas\u0131 ve anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r bir dil kullan\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011finin alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izdi. Erta\u015f, \u015f\u00f6yle devam etti:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cK\u0131sa c\u00fcmleler kurulmal\u0131, do\u011fal olunmal\u0131. Do\u011fal olmayan bir tutum, \u00e7ocuk da \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir \u015fey oluyor hissi uyand\u0131rabilir. <strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fa \u2018Anne-baba art\u0131k bir arada ya\u015famayacak. Ayr\u0131 evlerde ya\u015famaya karar verdik. Birlikte ayn\u0131 evde ya\u015fay\u0131nca anla\u015fam\u0131yoruz. Hani bazen arkada\u015flar anla\u015famaz, tart\u0131\u015f\u0131r birlikte oynamak istemez ya&#8230; <\/strong>Biz de ayn\u0131 evde ya\u015famayaca\u011f\u0131z, birbirimizin kar\u0131s\u0131 ve kocas\u0131 olmayaca\u011f\u0131z. Ama senin annen ve baban olmaya devam edece\u011fiz\u2019 denilebilir. \u00c7ocu\u011fun akl\u0131na sorular gelebilir. Bu sorular\u0131n cevaplar\u0131 mutlaka verilmeli. <strong>\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sorular\u0131 cevaps\u0131z kalan \u00e7ocuklar, cevaplar\u0131n\u0131 farkl\u0131 \u015fekillerde bulmaya ba\u015flayacakt\u0131r.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"yildizlibaslik\">\u200b<\/span>Bu durum \u00e7ocu\u011fun bo\u015fanma s\u00fcrecine y\u00f6nelik kayg\u0131lar<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>geli\u015ftirmesine neden olur. \u00c7ocu\u011fun ya\u015f\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcld\u00fck\u00e7e sorulara verilen cevaplar ger\u00e7ekten uzakla\u015f\u0131r; \u00e7ocuk bir g\u00fcn \u00f6nce yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir yaramazl\u0131ktan dolay\u0131 kendini, ya da bir g\u00fcn \u00f6nce evde \u00f6fkeli g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ebeveyni su\u00e7layabilir. Bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131 s\u00fcre\u00e7 de \u00f6nemlidir elbette.<br \/>\n<strong><br \/>\n\u00c7ocuklar i\u00e7in g\u00fcvenli ve d\u00fczenli ya\u015fam\u0131n devam etmesi gerekir. \u00c7ocuklar i\u00e7in bir ya\u015fam de\u011fi\u015fimi kolay de\u011fildir. Elbette s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar ya\u015fanacakt\u0131r. Bu s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar yeti\u015fkinler i\u00e7in de mevcuttur. S\u00fcre\u00e7 i\u00e7inde \u00e7ocu\u011fun di\u011fer ortamlar\u0131n\u0131 ve ya\u015famsal d\u00fczenini de\u011fi\u015ftirmemek gerekir.<br \/>\n<\/strong><br \/>\n\u00c7ocu\u011fun okulu, \u00f6\u011fretmeni, arkada\u015flar\u0131, g\u00fcnl\u00fck rutini m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca ayn\u0131 kalmal\u0131d\u0131r. Anne ve baba ile g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmelerin d\u00fczenli olmas\u0131, bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131 \u00e7ocuk odakl\u0131 karar ve tutumlar\u0131n ortak olmas\u0131 \u00f6nemlidir\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>E\u015flerin evlili\u011fi bitirme karar\u0131 almas\u0131 kolay de\u011fildir. \u00d6zellikle \u00e7ocuklu aileler i\u00e7in karar s\u00fcreci uzun ve zordur. E\u015flerin en \u00e7ok zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131 konu ise \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na bo\u015fanma karar\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l anlatacaklar\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011fun bunu nas\u0131l kar\u015f\u0131layaca\u011f\u0131, en \u00f6nemlisi de bo\u015fanman\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fu gelecekte nas\u0131l etkileyece\u011fi konusu \u00e7ok kayg\u0131 duyulan bir durumdur. \u00d6zellikle 8 ya\u015f\u0131na kadar olan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 olan aileler i\u00e7in bu [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":80,"featured_media":1657,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1111],"tags":[1120,1119,1121,1118],"class_list":["post-1656","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-yasam","tag-bosanma-karari-alan-erkek","tag-bosanma-karari-almak","tag-bosanma-karari-cocuga-nasil-soylenir","tag-bosanma-karari-ornegi"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/bosanma-karari.jpg?fit=626%2C412&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1656","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/80"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1656"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1656\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1657"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1656"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1656"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1656"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}