{"id":1533,"date":"2018-04-23T10:00:04","date_gmt":"2018-04-23T07:00:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=1533"},"modified":"2018-04-22T22:20:52","modified_gmt":"2018-04-22T19:20:52","slug":"ergenlik-doneminde-cocugunuza-deger-verdiginizi-hissettirin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/ergenlik-doneminde-cocugunuza-deger-verdiginizi-hissettirin\/","title":{"rendered":"Ergenlik d\u00f6neminde \u00e7ocu\u011funuza de\u011fer verdi\u011finizi hissettirin!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>13 &#8211; 22 ya\u015flar\u0131 aras\u0131 dalgalanmalar\u0131n yo\u011fun g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ergenlik d\u00f6nemi asl\u0131nda hi\u00e7 de kolay ge\u00e7meyen bir devredir. <strong>\u201cF\u0131rt\u0131na-gerginlik\u201d<\/strong> d\u00f6nemi olarak da bilinen bu s\u00fcre\u00e7, hem ergen hem de ergenin ailesi i\u00e7in olduk\u00e7a zorlu ge\u00e7er. Aile ergeni anlamakta g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fck \u00e7ekerken, ergen de anla\u015f\u0131lma duygusunu tam olarak ya\u015fayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr.<\/p>\n<p><strong>De\u011fer verdi\u011finizi hissettirin!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Her \u015feyden \u00f6nce onu anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ve ona de\u011fer verdi\u011finizi hissettirin. Fikir al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fi yap\u0131p, ortak paydalar bulun. S\u00f6z ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zda nazik olun.<\/p>\n<p>Nasihat almaktan ya\u015fanmayabilece\u011fini unutmay\u0131n. Kal\u0131c\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm i\u00e7in diyalo\u011funuzu samimi kurun. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini ifade edebilecekleri bir ortam olu\u015fturun. Anne ve babas\u0131yla gurur duymas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flay\u0131n.<br \/>\nArkada\u015flar\u0131yla ve kendi ge\u00e7mi\u015finizle kesinlikle k\u0131yaslamay\u0131n. Ayr\u0131ca arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ele\u015ftirmeyin.<\/p>\n<p>Onaylamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z arkada\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 uygun bir \u015fekilde kendisiyle konu\u015fup, bu durumu kendisinin g\u00f6rmesini sa\u011flay\u0131n. Ona ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemek yerine, onun ger\u00e7ekleri bulmas\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 olun.<br \/>\nRencide edecek davran\u0131\u015flardan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n!<\/p>\n<p>Onu ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda azarlamay\u0131n ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmeyin. Azarlamak aran\u0131za mesafe koyar, \u00e7ocu\u011funuza ula\u015fman\u0131z g\u00fc\u00e7le\u015ftirir. \u00d6ncelikle ebeveynlerin bu geli\u015fim d\u00f6nemini atlatm\u0131\u015f ki\u015filer olarak, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ndan daha avantajl\u0131 ve daha \u00e7ok y\u00fck\u00fcml\u00fcl\u00fck alt\u0131nda olduklar\u0131n\u0131 unutmamalar\u0131 gerekir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc siz ergenlik d\u00f6nemini ya\u015fad\u0131n\u0131z, yani \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun d\u00f6neminin fark\u0131ndas\u0131n\u0131z ancak \u00e7ocu\u011funuz ebeveyn olmad\u0131 ve sizin anlatt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 anlamakta zorlan\u0131yor. Bu durumda sab\u0131rla davranmal\u0131 ve daha \u00e7ok anlatmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.<br \/>\n\u00c7ocu\u011funuz isteklerinde \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcs\u00fcz olabilir. Siz yine de anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olun. A\u015f\u0131r\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 o anda \u00e7\u00f6zmek yerine zamanla g\u00f6rmesini sa\u011flamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Ancak dinleyerek \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme ula\u015fabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterin!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u0130lgi alanlar\u0131ndaki de\u011fi\u015fimi (sanat, spor, k\u0131yafet, m\u00fczik vb.) anlay\u0131\u015fla kar\u015f\u0131lay\u0131n. Aksi y\u00f6ndeki yorumlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011funuza ula\u015fmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 unutmay\u0131n. Ancak onunla ayn\u0131 kanepeye oturduktan ve kalbine dokunduktan sonra s\u00f6yleyecekleriniz \u00e7ocu\u011funuza ula\u015fmaya ba\u015flar. Bu nedenle sab\u0131rl\u0131 olun. Onu te\u015fvik edin.<br \/>\nOnun da \u00f6zelinin olabilece\u011fini kabul edin ve sayg\u0131l\u0131 olun. Bunu hissetti\u011finde sizinle ileti\u015fime ge\u00e7ecek ve payla\u015fmaya ba\u015flayacakt\u0131r. Tekrarlayan uyar\u0131lar yap\u0131yorsan\u0131z bir yerde yanl\u0131\u015f yap\u0131yorsunuz demektir. Bunlara gerek kalmadan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi tahmin etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 ve size kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 durumunda aran\u0131zdaki u\u00e7urum daha da artar.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00d6rnek olun!<br \/>\n<\/strong><br \/>\nEvde s\u00fckunetin sa\u011flanmas\u0131 i\u00e7in gayret g\u00f6sterin.<\/p>\n<p>Ona sorumluluk verin ve \u00e7\u00f6zmesi i\u00e7in sab\u0131rl\u0131 olun. Zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131 noktada birlikte ad\u0131m at\u0131n. Ona model olun. Sizden g\u00f6remedi\u011fini ba\u015fka yerde aramas\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7in.<\/p>\n<p>\u00dcniversite s\u0131nav\u0131 gibi yar\u0131\u015f s\u00fcre\u00e7leri ergenlerin kendilerine olan g\u00fcven duygusunu zedeleyebiliyor. Bu d\u00f6nemde ona destek olmal\u0131 ve moralini y\u00fcksek tutmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>13 &#8211; 22 ya\u015flar\u0131 aras\u0131 dalgalanmalar\u0131n yo\u011fun g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ergenlik d\u00f6nemi asl\u0131nda hi\u00e7 de kolay ge\u00e7meyen bir devredir. \u201cF\u0131rt\u0131na-gerginlik\u201d d\u00f6nemi olarak da bilinen bu s\u00fcre\u00e7, hem ergen hem de ergenin ailesi i\u00e7in olduk\u00e7a zorlu ge\u00e7er. Aile ergeni anlamakta g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fck \u00e7ekerken, ergen de anla\u015f\u0131lma duygusunu tam olarak ya\u015fayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. De\u011fer verdi\u011finizi hissettirin! Her \u015feyden \u00f6nce onu anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":80,"featured_media":1534,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[964,965,967,966],"class_list":{"0":"post-1533","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-cocuk","8":"tag-ergenlik-donemi","9":"tag-ergenlik-donemi-ve-ozellkleri","10":"tag-ergenlik-ne-zaman-biter","11":"tag-ergenlik-yasi"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/ergenlik-donemi.jpg?fit=640%2C426&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1533","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/80"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1533"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1533\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1534"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1533"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1533"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1533"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}