{"id":14206,"date":"2025-01-06T09:54:43","date_gmt":"2025-01-06T06:54:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/?p=14206"},"modified":"2025-03-03T12:28:57","modified_gmt":"2025-03-03T09:28:57","slug":"biri-ergenlik-mi-dedi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/biri-ergenlik-mi-dedi\/","title":{"rendered":"Ergenlik d\u00f6nemi ileti\u015fimi nas\u0131l olmal\u0131d\u0131r?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-light-blue ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Yaz\u0131 \u0130\u00e7eri\u011fi<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a57b284d0fa4\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a57b284d0fa4\"  aria-label=\"A\u00e7\/Kapat\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/biri-ergenlik-mi-dedi\/#Biri_Ergenlik_mi_Dedi\" >Biri Ergenlik mi Dedi?<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/biri-ergenlik-mi-dedi\/#Ergenlik_Nedir\" >Ergenlik Nedir?<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<p>Ergenlik d\u00f6nemi hem aileler hem de ergenlik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131nda olanlar i\u00e7in zorlu ge\u00e7en bir d\u00f6nem olarak ifade edilir. Hem sosyal hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde hem de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kendi d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fiklikleri nas\u0131l \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmleyebiliriz? Ergenlik d\u00f6nemindeki \u00e7ocuklara nas\u0131l davranmal\u0131y\u0131z? Ergenlik d\u00f6nemi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 ile ilgili merak edilenleri <strong>\u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatristi Dr. Nagihan Saday Duman, Anne Bebek Kulub\u00fc <\/strong>okuyucular\u0131 i\u00e7in yazd\u0131.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_14209\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-14209\" style=\"width: 500px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-14209\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/WhatsApp-Gorsel-2024-05-06-saat-09.54.39_e0a6b9de.jpg?resize=500%2C500&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/WhatsApp-Gorsel-2024-05-06-saat-09.54.39_e0a6b9de.jpg?w=500&amp;ssl=1 500w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/WhatsApp-Gorsel-2024-05-06-saat-09.54.39_e0a6b9de.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/WhatsApp-Gorsel-2024-05-06-saat-09.54.39_e0a6b9de.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-14209\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Ergenlik nedir?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Biri_Ergenlik_mi_Dedi\"><\/span><strong>Biri Ergenlik mi Dedi?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><strong>\u201cBizim d\u00f6nemimizde ergenlik mi vard\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Bu c\u00fcmleyi \u00e7ok duyuyorum ve her duydu\u011fumda \u00fcst\u00fcne tekrar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Sonra akl\u0131ma Sokrates\u2019in M.\u00d6 400 y\u0131llar\u0131nda gen\u00e7ler i\u00e7in s\u00f6yledi\u011fi s\u00f6zler geliyor; <strong>\u201cBug\u00fcn\u00fcn gen\u00e7leri l\u00fcks<\/strong> <strong>ve g\u00f6steri\u015f d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcn\u00fc, sayg\u0131s\u0131z, ba\u015fkald\u0131ran, geveze ve obur yarat\u0131klard\u0131r.\u201d<\/strong> Sokrates\u2019in zaman\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerinden y\u00fczlerce y\u0131l ge\u00e7mi\u015f olsa da ebeveynlerin gen\u00e7ler hakk\u0131ndaki d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri de\u011fi\u015fmemi\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor. Bizim d\u00f6nemimizde de muhtemelen bizim ebeveynlerimiz ayn\u0131 \u015feyleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyordu, \u015fimdi de biz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in benzer c\u00fcmleler sarf ediyoruz.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Y\u0131llar ge\u00e7se de \u00fcst\u00fcnden, bu kalbimizin unutmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ergenlik nas\u0131l bir \u015feymi\u015f gelin konu\u015fal\u0131m.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Ergenlik_Nedir\"><\/span><strong>Ergenlik Nedir?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><strong>Ergenlik<\/strong> (adolescence) kelimesi Latince \u201cadolescere\u201d kelimesinden gelir ve anlam\u0131 da \u201cb\u00fcy\u00fcy\u00fcp geli\u015fmek\/olgunla\u015fmak\u201dt\u0131r. Kelime anlam\u0131ndan yola \u00e7\u0131karak ergenli\u011fin \u00e7ocukluktan yeti\u015fkinli\u011fe bir ge\u00e7i\u015f, bir olgunla\u015fma s\u00fcreci oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyebiliriz. Ge\u00e7i\u015f s\u00fcreci, i\u00e7inde fiziksel de\u011fi\u015fimleri ve ruhsal geli\u015fimi bar\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Geli\u015fimin her basama\u011f\u0131nda oldu\u011fu gibi bu d\u00f6nemde de at\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken ad\u0131mlar ve ula\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken hedefler vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Ergenlik d\u00f6nemine ad\u0131m atan gen\u00e7ler, fiziksel de\u011fi\u015fimlere uyum sa\u011flamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken bir yandan da sosyal ve toplumsal olarak yeni rolleri deneyimlemeye ba\u015flar. Bu d\u00f6nemde gen\u00e7ler i\u00e7in bir gruba ait olma ihtiyac\u0131 belirginle\u015fir ve arkada\u015f ili\u015fkileri daha \u00f6n plana \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_14208\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-14208\" style=\"width: 500px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-14208\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/WhatsApp-Gorsel-2024-05-06-saat-09.54.23_aacf981d.jpg?resize=500%2C500&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/WhatsApp-Gorsel-2024-05-06-saat-09.54.23_aacf981d.jpg?w=500&amp;ssl=1 500w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/WhatsApp-Gorsel-2024-05-06-saat-09.54.23_aacf981d.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/WhatsApp-Gorsel-2024-05-06-saat-09.54.23_aacf981d.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-14208\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Ergenlik d\u00f6neminde ruhsal durum nas\u0131ld\u0131r?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Fiziksel de\u011fi\u015fimlerin ba\u015flamas\u0131yla be\u011fenilme ve onaylanma ihtiyac\u0131 bedenleriyle a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 u\u011fra\u015fmalar\u0131na yol a\u00e7ar. Toplumda \u00f6n plana \u00e7\u0131kan beden imajlar\u0131, sosyal medya gibi platformlarda \u00e7ok say\u0131da be\u011feni alan ki\u015filerin fiziksel \u00f6zellikleri gen\u00e7leri etkiler ve onlar gibi olmak isterler. Bu durum gen\u00e7lerde <strong>beden alg\u0131s\u0131 bozuklu\u011fu, anoreksiya nervoza<\/strong> ya da <strong>blumia nervoza<\/strong> gibi yeme bozukluklar\u0131n\u0131n ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131na yol a\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Okumal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z: <a href=\"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/ergenlik-donemi-akne-problemleri-ve-izleri\/\">Ergenlik d\u00f6nemi akne problemleri ve izleri<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ergenlik d\u00f6neminin en \u00f6nemli \u00f6zelliklerinden biri gencin kendine yeni bir kimlik in\u015fa etmesidir. Kimlik geli\u015fimi s\u0131ras\u0131nda gen\u00e7ler her kimli\u011fi denemek ister ve kendine en uygun kimli\u011fi bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bir sabah uyan\u0131p simsiyah giyinmeye karar verir, d\u00fcnyadaki her olumsuzlu\u011fa isyan eder, ertesi g\u00fcn i\u00e7inden bir <strong>\u201carabesk kral\u0131\u201d<\/strong> ya da<strong> \u201cBarbie girl\u201d<\/strong> \u00e7\u0131kabilir.<\/p>\n<p>Kendini arayan gen\u00e7ler bu s\u00fcrecin en \u00f6nemli par\u00e7as\u0131 olan kendi kararlar\u0131n\u0131 verebilme ve ebeveyninden ayr\u0131\u015fma deneyimleri i\u00e7inde debelenip durur. Bir yandan sonsuz \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn hayalini kurarken di\u011fer yandan bir yeti\u015fkinin korumas\u0131n\u0131 hissetti\u011fi g\u00fcvenli alanlara ihtiya\u00e7 duyar. Ergenlik d\u00f6nemindeki gen\u00e7lerle ebeveynlerinin en \u00e7ok kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya kald\u0131\u011f\u0131, ebeveynin ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u015fa\u015f\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlar tam da bu anlard\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Okumal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z: <a href=\"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/ergenlik-donemi-beslenmesi-neden-onemlidir\/\">Ergenlik d\u00f6nemi beslenmesi neden \u00f6nemlidir?<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ergenlik d\u00f6neminin gelgitleri i\u00e7inde ebeveyn olarak biz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za nas\u0131l yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabiliriz?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>En temel tutunaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z nokta; <strong>ili\u015fkimiz<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Evdeki gencimiz ile ili\u015fkimiz sa\u011flam, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc, keyifli olmazsa onlar\u0131 f\u0131rt\u0131nan\u0131n i\u00e7inde yapayaln\u0131z b\u0131rakm\u0131\u015f oluruz. Biz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za her zaman s\u0131\u011f\u0131nabilecekleri g\u00fcvenli bir liman olmazsak dev dalgalarla bo\u011fu\u015furken her bir darbede daha \u00e7ok uzakla\u015f\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130li\u015fkimizi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmenin ilk ad\u0131m\u0131, ileti\u015fim. \u00c7ocu\u011fumuzla nas\u0131l ileti\u015fim kuruyoruz?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong> Kontrolc\u00fc, endi\u015feli veya ele\u015ftirel miyiz, yoksa \u015fefkatli, demokratik ve kararl\u0131 m\u0131y\u0131z? Onlar\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc kabul edebiliyor muyuz? Onlara g\u00fcveniyor muyuz?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za yeni deneyimler ya\u015fayabilecekleri \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck alanlar\u0131 olu\u015ftururken ayn\u0131 zamanda g\u00fcvenliklerini sa\u011flayabilirsek, onlarla ilgili kararlar al\u0131rken fikirlerini sorabilirsek daha demokratik bir ili\u015fki kurabiliriz. Giyimi, sa\u00e7\u0131, tarz\u0131n\u0131 ele\u015ftirmek yerine, bu alanlarda kendi zevkimizi onlara dayatmak yerine sadece kendi aile de\u011ferlerimizi dile getirirsek daha \u00e7ok i\u015f birli\u011fine \u00e7ekebiliriz.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130lgi alanlar\u0131n\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemek, de\u011fersiz ve anlams\u0131z bulmak yerine onlarla ayn\u0131 m\u00fczi\u011fe kulak verebilirsek, izledikleri dizileri merak ederek birlikte izlemeye ve onlar i\u00e7in anlam\u0131n\u0131 duygusunu hissetmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rsak ileti\u015fimimizi devam ettirebiliriz.<\/p>\n<p>Bir yere gitmek istedi\u011finde e\u011fer \u00e7ocu\u011fumuz i\u00e7in endi\u015feleniyorsak onlara \u201c<strong>sana g\u00fcveniyorum ama \u00e7evreye g\u00fcvenmiyorum<\/strong>\u201d demek yerine \u201c<strong>orada seni rahats\u0131z hissettirecek en ufak bir durum olursa, kendini g\u00fcvende hissetmezsen, i\u015fler kontrolden \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor gibi hissedersen beni arayabilirsin<\/strong>\u201d diyerek yard\u0131m etmeye haz\u0131r oldu\u011funuz ve onu g\u00fcvende tutabilece\u011finiz mesaj\u0131n\u0131 vermek \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu koruman\u0131z\u0131 kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. Aksi takdirde sizden gizli sakl\u0131 yapmas\u0131, yalan s\u00f6ylemesi ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz olur.<\/p>\n<p>Ergenlik d\u00f6nemi hem \u00e7ocuk hem de ebeveyn i\u00e7in yeni bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 ve uyumlanmak i\u00e7in zamana ihtiya\u00e7 var. Bu geli\u015fim d\u00f6nemini ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 nas\u0131l alg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z s\u00fcreci y\u00f6netebilmenin \u00f6nemli bir belirleyicisi. Onlar\u0131 sorumsuz, sayg\u0131s\u0131z, tembel olarak nitelendirmek yerine, kendi kararlar\u0131n\u0131 vermeye, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini dile getirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan ve hata yapsalar da yeni deneyimlerden \u00f6\u011frenme hevesiyle yan\u0131p tutu\u015fan bireyler olarak g\u00f6rebilmek size e\u011flenceli, enerjik, mutlu, i\u015f birlik\u00e7i, g\u00f6n\u00fclden ba\u011fl\u0131 bir ergenlik d\u00f6nemi sunabilir.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130li\u015fkisi ve ileti\u015fimi bol ergenlikler sizinle olsun.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Okumal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z: <a href=\"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/ergenlik-donemi-ile-basa-cikmada-ebeveynlere-oneriler\/\">Ergenlik d\u00f6nemi ile ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kmada ebeveynlere \u00f6neriler<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"td-module-meta-info\"><\/div>\n<p><strong>Ergenlik d\u00f6nemi ve dikkat edilmesi gerekenlerle ilgili <\/strong>dilerseniz forum sayfam\u0131zda tecr\u00fcbeli annelerimizden destek alabilirsiniz! Siz de akl\u0131n\u0131za tak\u0131lanlar\u0131, merak ettiklerinizi veya \u00f6\u011frenmek istediklerinizi bize\u00a0<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/forum.annebebekkulubu.com\/\">Forum Anne Bebek Kul\u00fcb\u00fc<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0\u00fczerinden yazabilirsiniz.\u00a0<strong>Kad\u0131nlar olarak birlikte g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcy\u00fcz!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>ergenlik d\u00f6nemi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 nelerdir? ergenlerle nas\u0131l ileti\u015fim kurulur?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":14207,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,27],"tags":[11644,11645,11646,11643,964,11647],"class_list":["post-14206","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-aile","category-psikoloji","tag-ergen-annesi","tag-ergen-babasi","tag-ergen-davranislari","tag-ergenlik","tag-ergenlik-donemi","tag-ergenlik-donemi-sorunlari"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/WhatsApp-Gorsel-2024-05-06-saat-09.53.00_c6ec3d44.jpg?fit=500%2C500&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14206","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14206"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14206\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14374,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14206\/revisions\/14374"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14207"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14206"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14206"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14206"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}