{"id":1380,"date":"2018-04-17T23:29:31","date_gmt":"2018-04-17T20:29:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.annebebekkulubu.com\/?p=1380"},"modified":"2018-04-17T23:29:31","modified_gmt":"2018-04-17T20:29:31","slug":"annelik-standart-donanimimizda-var-mi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/annelik-standart-donanimimizda-var-mi\/","title":{"rendered":"Annelik standart donan\u0131m\u0131m\u0131zda var m\u0131?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Hadi size 100 puanl\u0131k bir uzmanl\u0131k sorusu, annelik insano\u011flunun (insan k\u0131z\u0131 niye de\u011filse?) di\u015fil versiyonunun standart donan\u0131m\u0131nda var m\u0131?<\/strong> Bence yok, daha do\u011frusu benimkinde yokmu\u015f. Bunu nereden anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 az sonra anlataca\u011f\u0131m ancak, kimi hemcinslerim var ki, ger\u00e7ekten analar\u0131n\u0131n karn\u0131ndan ger\u00e7ekten \u201canam anam cefakar anam, vefakar anam\u201d olarak do\u011fuyorlar. Bu<strong> minik anal\u0131k<\/strong> bebekken k\u0131z bebeklerinin alt\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmekle ba\u015fl\u0131yor, \u00e7ocukken daha k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bebeklere ablal\u0131k yapmakla devam edip, kendileri do\u011furana kadar da bulduklar\u0131 her bebe\u011fi Elmayra misali (Elmayra\u2019n\u0131n kim oldu\u011funu anlamaya tevell\u00fct\u00fc yetmeyenler Hz. Gug\u0131l\u2019\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131p bir bak\u0131versin bi\u2019zahmet) m\u0131nc\u0131klamak suretiyle devam ediyor.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do\u011furduklar\u0131nda da sanki ayn\u0131 saniyede hayatlar\u0131 boyunca o ana haz\u0131rlanm\u0131\u015f ve o an\u0131 bekliyorlarm\u0131\u015f gibi, p\u0131t diye emziriveriyorlar, f\u0131rt diye gaz \u00e7\u0131kart\u0131veriyorlar. Hepsi <strong>m\u00fckemmel anne<\/strong> ve hepsi <strong>m\u00fckemmel bebekler<\/strong> do\u011furuyorlar. Bunlar\u0131nki m\u00fcpm\u00fckemmel de benim ki niye b\u00f6yle diye afallay\u0131p kal\u0131veriyorsunuz. Hepsinin sizin bebe\u011finizle ilgili ne yapman\u0131z gerekti\u011fine dair bir fikri var, ve asl\u0131nda sizin bebe\u011finiz i\u00e7in yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z her \u015fey yanl\u0131\u015f. <em>\u201cAaaa hi\u00e7 \u00f6yle \u015fey olur mu \u015fekerim, ben bizim Berilsu\u2019yu do\u011fdu\u011fundan beridir hep damacana suyuyla y\u0131kad\u0131m, musluk suyundan mikrop kapar maazallah\u201d<\/em> diyenine \u201cAnan da k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckken seni hep damacana suyuyla y\u0131kam\u0131\u015f zaten bac\u0131m!\u201d\u0131 yap\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131verirsiniz. Bu kadar m\u00fcbala\u011fa yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131ma bakmay\u0131n, ger\u00e7ekten tek ama\u00e7lar\u0131 size kendinizi yetersiz hissetmek olan bir kad\u0131n g\u00fcruhu var. Onlardan sebep ben taba\u011f\u0131ndan, emzi\u011finden, ka\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan ge\u00e7tim, neredeyse \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisini sterilizat\u00f6re sokacakt\u0131m. Lohusal\u0131k dedi\u011fin bildi\u011fin delilik hali zaten. Onu da ayr\u0131ca anlat\u0131r\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Hamilelik<\/strong> boyunca bu m\u00fckemmel annelerin m\u00fckemmel evlatlar\u0131n\u0131 dinleyip, o m\u00fckemmel do\u011fum foto\u011fraflar\u0131n\u0131 instagram\u2019da stalklay\u0131nca <strong>\u201cAy!\u201d<\/strong> diyorsun, <strong>\u201cKimbilir ben nas\u0131l bir m\u00fckemmellik do\u011furaca\u011f\u0131m?\u201d<\/strong> Kimse size yeni do\u011fmu\u015f bebeklerin kara kuru, buru\u015fuk ve s\u00fcrekli a\u011flayan bir \u00a0insan k\u0131r\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemiyor. Misal ben, bildi\u011fin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir adam do\u011furdum. Do\u011fum foto\u011fraf\u0131n\u0131 bir arkada\u015f\u0131ma g\u00f6nderdi\u011fimde <strong>\u201cM\u00fcd\u00fcr\u00fcm olsa izin istemeye korkar\u0131m\u201d<\/strong> dedi yahu\u2026 O\u011flumu ilk kuca\u011f\u0131ma ald\u0131\u011f\u0131mdaki o e\u015fsiz m\u00fckemmel an\u0131 hi\u00e7 anlatmayaca\u011f\u0131m, herkes sadece sap\u0131r sap\u0131r o k\u0131sm\u0131 anlat\u0131yor zaten. Kuzuyu kuca\u011f\u0131ma verdiklerinde, ilk duygu selini atlat\u0131p, h\u00fcng\u00fcr \u015fak\u0131r mutluluk g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131m\u0131 sildikten sonra, bir e\u015fime bakt\u0131m yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131 bir adam, bir kendime bakt\u0131m, eh \u00e7ok \u00e7irkin bir kad\u0131n da say\u0131lmam, sonra hastanede o esnada do\u011fan ba\u015fka bebek var m\u0131 diye sordurdum, yokmu\u015f, kar\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f olma ihtimali de yok yani, biz sar\u0131\u015f\u0131n insanlar\u0131z, bizimki bildi\u011fin \u015eirin Baba\u2019n\u0131n simsiyah sa\u00e7l\u0131 k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 versiyonu, kime \u00e7ekti ayol? Diye sorarken buldum kendimi. <strong>\u201cKundak \u00e7irkini, mahalle g\u00fczeli\u201d<\/strong> atas\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ya\u015fayarak \u00f6\u011frendim ben. Atalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bir bildi\u011fi varm\u0131\u015f demek ki.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anne olman\u0131n benim standart donan\u0131m\u0131mda olmay\u0131p sonradan download edildi\u011fini (Standart araba al\u0131p \u00fcst\u00fcne yeni donan\u0131m ekletmek gibi bir \u015fey mi bu, yoksa Windows al\u0131p Outlook\u2019a tekrar \u00f6deme yapmak gibi mi, iyi bir \u015fey mi k\u00f6t\u00fc bir \u015fey mi bilemedim ama) \u00a0anlatmaya giri\u015fip anneli\u011fin anlat\u0131lmayanlar\u0131n\u0131 anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir yaz\u0131 oldu bu. Daha anlat\u0131lmayan neler neleeer var, ben burdan y\u00fcr\u00fcr\u00fcm. Zaten ilk elin g\u00fcnah\u0131 olmazm\u0131\u015f. \u0130dare ediverin gari!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hadi size 100 puanl\u0131k bir uzmanl\u0131k sorusu, annelik insano\u011flunun (insan k\u0131z\u0131 niye de\u011filse?) di\u015fil versiyonunun standart donan\u0131m\u0131nda var m\u0131? Bence yok, daha do\u011frusu benimkinde yokmu\u015f. Bunu nereden anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 az sonra anlataca\u011f\u0131m ancak, kimi hemcinslerim var ki, ger\u00e7ekten analar\u0131n\u0131n karn\u0131ndan ger\u00e7ekten \u201canam anam cefakar anam, vefakar anam\u201d olarak do\u011fuyorlar. Bu minik anal\u0131k bebekken k\u0131z bebeklerinin alt\u0131n\u0131 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":1381,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[77,40,855,118,854,853],"class_list":{"0":"post-1380","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-bebek","8":"tag-aile","9":"tag-annelik","10":"tag-bebek-yetistirme","11":"tag-cocuk-yetistirme","12":"tag-esra-alagoz","13":"tag-mukemmel-anne"},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/esra-alagoz-kerem-efendi.jpg?fit=720%2C658&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1380","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1380"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1380\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1381"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1380"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1380"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/annebebekkulubu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1380"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}